I rarely get sex anymore with GF of 2 yrs. WTF?

[jamescr73]

Weve been together for nearly 2 years now, and Id say the first year we had sex at least twice a week. Those first few months was crazy, then the frequency started to decline. Now at the almost 2 years point, Id say it happens about twice a month. This really sucks because the sex is great. i have never had a complaint from her, and actually she tells me how good I am compared to the guys in her past. She is very busy with college (15 credit hrs) and work (30 hrs a week). That is her primary excuse is that she is busy or is tired and she is pretty busy I know this. So am I. Im in the process of starting my own business and have jobs lined up for miles. Not only this but the part time job I keep just to have constant income.
We still have time to hang out and watch a movie, or go out to dinner, or just sit on the couch and watch tv, but why dont we have 45 minutes to have sex anymore?
Any ideas?

 

[jamescr73]

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
I also show that I "want it too much" when she doesn't. It's something I really need to work on.

Yeah, i can relate with you here.

But as for the foreplay thing, we almost always have foreplay because I know she enjoys it. When we have foreplay, I get her so turned on that she just begs me to fvck her. I just wish it would happen more often than every 10-14 days.

 

[TizZle]

Look up Sir Chancealot's sex post. It's a pretty good read. It is important that you warm her up for sex. Maybe it just feels less exciting for her that's my logical assumption. Try new things to spice up you sex life with her.

 

[whistler]

This will come off as condescending and egotistical... (it's not meant to be).

In all of my LTR's (a few), I've had sex 5 to 20 times a week, even after 18 months together.


You need to understand women.

They live in a more emotional world. Sex isn't just a physical experience.

You can't routinely skip foreplay and expect that she'll be satisfied. Because you're missing a big part of the experience...


Sex is an emotional wave that melds into a physical one for a while and then back again.

If you skip the transitional parts (foreplay, cuddling afterward) it's abrupt, awkward, and unnatural for her.

Women on this board -- back me up if you agree, or clarify this if you can.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

When was the last time the two of you went on a date?

 

[CraigMack]

Originally posted by jamescr73
Weve been together for nearly 2 years now, and Id say the first year we had sex at least twice a week. Those first few months was crazy, then the frequency started to decline. Now at the almost 2 years point, Id say it happens about twice a month. This really sucks because the sex is great. i have never had a complaint from her, and actually she tells me how good I am compared to the guys in her past. She is very busy with college (15 credit hrs) and work (30 hrs a week). That is her primary excuse is that she is busy or is tired and she is pretty busy I know this. So am I. Im in the process of starting my own business and have jobs lined up for miles. Not only this but the part time job I keep just to have constant income.
We still have time to hang out and watch a movie, or go out to dinner, or just sit on the couch and watch tv, but why dont we have 45 minutes to have sex anymore?
Any ideas?

Because you are not man enough to demand her fullfilling her place as a woman, that's why.

Sorry but a real man wouldn't have this problem, nor would a woman even think about giving a real man this kind of bullsh*t.

She would be too worried about losing him so would want to use sex to keep him. Obviously she isn't worried about you in the least. Infact no more than a gnat flying around.

Sucks doesn't it.

Now do something about it!

Open up the lines of communication to your woman not a bunch of guys on the internet.

 

[jamescr73]

Last weekend we went out for dinner, pretty much every weekend we go to dinner or see a movie or both. Nothing really exciting and different lately I guess, just different places to eat and different movies to watch.

As for the sex getting boring, I thought about that awhile back and read up on different positions and techniques and implemented them into the bedroom, and things went fairly well. Spiced it up some, but some things she cant do (shes small and it hurts sometimes), so were limited as to what positions we can do. She is totally opposed to anal, I had her talked into trying it once, but it never happened so I dont even go there anymore. And now her giving oral is out of the picture for awhile because she just had some surgery on her mouth and she has stitches in her gums. So, not sure what else to try, maybe some swings and chains and sh1t, haha.

 

[Skullcrusher]

Warm her up, if you can't wait too much time doing foreplay. Just massage her body for a couple, then finger for a couple, then f-u-c-k. Simple.

 

[jamescr73]

Re: Re: I rarely get sex anymore with GF of 2 yrs. WTF?

Originally posted by CraigMack
Because you are not man enough to demand her fullfilling her place as a woman, that's why.

Sorry but a real man wouldn't have this problem, nor would a woman even think about giving a real man this kind of bullsh*t.

She would be too worried about losing him so would want to use sex to keep him. Obviously she isn't worried about you in the least. Infact no more than a gnat flying around.

Sucks doesn't it.

Now do something about it!

Open up the lines of communication to your woman not a bunch of guys on the internet.

Actually she is very worried about losing me, and she has made it very clear that she doesnt want to leave me or break up with me. She and her ex from like 3 yrs ago's whole relationship was based just on sex. They had sex nearly every day. She really had no emotional attachment and he just treated her like sh1t all the time so she finally left. She has made it clear to me that we dont have that type of relationship and when I bring up the subject of sex I get asked "is that all our relationship is to you is sex, is that all thats important to you?" Well the answer is no, its not all thats important, its just what is lacking.

 

[jamescr73]

Originally posted by Skullcrusher
Warm her up, if you can't wait too much time doing foreplay. Just massage her body for a couple, then finger for a couple, then f-u-c-k. Simple.

yeah, works great on that 1 out of 10 tries. Works like a charm. Problem is on the other 9 she'll say one of the following "cant we just lay here and relax, why do you always want to have sex?" "Im tired, dont mess with me" or "stop, i want to take a nap" or just push my hand away, or not allow me to kiss her neck, move away or something along those lines.

 

[SheDevil]

Originally posted by whistler


Sex isn't just a physical experience.

You can't routinely skip foreplay and expect that she'll be satisfied. Because you're missing a big part of the experience...


Sex is an emotional wave that melds into a physical one for a while and then back again.



Whistler - I will back you up on your points made. Sex is an intimate experience. But it is also important to keep it spontaneous. Different times, places and days of the week.

I find it very exciting when he shuts the stove off and carries me out of the kitchen - or better yet - just clears a spot on the counter.

I also feel the woman should do the same for him. When he is least expecting sex, just take the lead and see what happens. I find my lover to be very receptive of me initiating sex, anytime, anyplace.

Tell her what you want, get her to tell you what she wants, communication is a huge plus in a relationship.

Sex isn't just something to do before bed, if the urge hits while washing the car, the soapy hood is fabulous.

 

[xiola]

try sex at different times?? wake her up one morning and try to have sex. also, try different kinds of dates. rent a hotel room one sat. night and do room service instead of dinner and a movie

take a hot bath together and massage her in the tub

there are many different things you can do

also, if she is worried about losing you, she should be thinking of some things too

b

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by jamescr73
Last weekend we went out for dinner, pretty much every weekend we go to dinner or see a movie or both. Nothing really exciting and different lately I guess, just different places to eat and different movies to watch. ...

Dude, pretend that the two of you just met. Each time that you go out, you go to dinner and a movie, nothing else. Would you become bored? What then?

The only difference is you two are in a committed relationship and it would be more trouble to break up, so the two of you just deal with it. If you were just dating, I wouldn't expect more than just three or maybe four dates before each of you would move on. It's the norm for the two of you to be bored with one another and you both have come to accept it.

Unless both of you do things to change your lifestyle, you are going to stay in this relationship limbo. Stop doing the boring crap and start engaging one another. Instead of going out to dinner, go to a cooking class together. Instead of watching a movie together, go out and play some type of sport together. INTERACT!!!!!!!

I haven't mentioned anything about sex because a woman in a relationship will not have sex with you (at least not good sex) unless her feelings are taken care of. Right now her feelings are being taken care of by means other than you and unless you change that, nothing is going to progress in your sexual relationship with her.

 

[NewMan]

Lack of sex is usually a sign that other things in your relationship are not good.

Sex is the first thing to go.

Review your relationship and see what has changed.

Talk to her about things OTHER than sex that she is not happy with.



Also, part of being a man is taking. You perhaps need to be more agressive with her when it comes to getting sex......

Be a man.

 

[CraigMack]

Actually she is very worried about losing me, and she has made it very clear that she doesnt want to leave me or break up with me.

I will bet she is worried about loosing such a perfect guy. A guy who puts up with her **** and doesn't demand sex like the last one did and made her have sex everyday and treated her like ****....I wonder who got the better of the package here...hmmmm...the other guy did and he has moved on to better women and not gotten stuck on just one! And that is ok if you want a ltr, but not like this my friend.








She and her ex from like 3 yrs ago's whole relationship was based just on sex. They had sex nearly every day. She really had no emotional attachment and he just treated her like sh1t all the time so she finally left.


LOL, see he got all the pvssy he wanted as I said.



She has made it clear to me that we dont have that type of relationship and when I bring up the subject of sex I get asked "is that all our relationship is to you is sex, is that all thats important to you?" Well the answer is no, its not all thats important, its just what is lacking.


Yeah it does sound like she is calling the shots here. She knows how to manipulate you like the last guy manipulated her. I guess it's her revenge against him. I'll bet she probably sucked his d*ck all the time too but won't tell you that so that you don't get jealous. Guys like that get it their way when they want it and how they want it.

Go grab your balls back man!

 

[CraigMack]

Oh, after you get your nuts back, leave her. Don't accept apollogies or promises to change. Cause it will only last for a while. Your girl has no sex drive and it will only get worse.

She had sex with the last guy cause he was man enough not to put up with her sh*t. Your not and that is ok. Just get out.

Go find a woman who will make you totally happy. Half way isn't it and it's no way to live your life. I don't care what excuses you make for YOU or HER, it sounds like a hell relationship to me.

And sex 2x's a week at the start is very very low and bad in my opinion. 5 times a week is good but not the best.

You have become domesticated into that caucasian sex poll results that state that we have sex only at most 12 times a year....bullsh*t!

I'm banging quiff everyday that I can!

 

[italostud]

Who the hell can live off of sex once a month? Wtf? Ever since I lost my virginity, it's been at least once a day(except when I've been in dry spells). Come on guys, if you're in a LTR you should be getting it at least once a day! Once a month is just ridiculous and I'm afraid that your testicles may explode.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

CRAIGMACK you're f*cking right on.

I had started losing my balls to my gf of 3 months (who has recently been acting like a total b*tch in bed!), and I certainly don't want to end up like this guy...sex 2 times a month?!?! Sh*t, just thinking about it is shrinking my balls!

WTF are you thinking...like Craig said, LIFE IS TOO SHORT FOR HAVING THINGS HALFASS!

Dump this broad; it appears that your balls have been tucked away in her purse!

NO TIME FOR SEX??! You said it yourself that you guys go out..Surely theres half an hour per day for sex! That's utter horsesh*t!

Get your position back, man. Realize that YOUR needs are important, and that if they ARE NOT met, you will move on. Put her back in her place! Gain control! She's not treating you like a REAL MAN, and like someone told me in my post, SHE WILL EVENTUALLY DUMP YOU FOR A REAL MAN. Women dig confidence; they dig a man who has enough balls to follow through with what he wants and refuses to satisfy for less! They dig a man who is not afraid to walk away! They dig a man who has control over things in his life!

AND WE SHOULD BE THOSE MEN. The time is now! RIGHT F*CKING NOW! It's time to stop being sucked into this trap of p*ssification! And not only that...for us, it's time to GET OUT OF THIS TRAP! The longer we wait the stronger the web will become, and the weaker we will become!

Go to the DJ Bible, revew your mindset, and become what you REALLY ARE...a MAN!

 

[penkitten]

if you aren't givin her any, where is she getting it from???

 

[Avsguy01]

Yeah, i would have to agree that this chick is being rildicuously selfish. This situation that you are in is definately horse****. I mean, me and my girl of a year are having more sex than ever! I simply can't keep her off my ****. You have to step up man, and if she has a problem than, you just have to walk away.