I rarely get sex anymore with GF of 2 yrs. WTF?

[thecraftylefty]

Some good advice in here from everybody.

The thing I'd like to bring up is this

Actually she is very worried about losing me, and she has made it very clear that she doesnt want to leave me or break up with me.

and this

I get asked "is that all our relationship is to you is sex, is that all thats important to you?"

Hmm, in my mind those two things go together automatically. Sex and relationships. You get in a relationship and sex is what the two of you share together. If you don't, then you're missing a huge part of the relationship equation, which is intimacy.

The next time the two of you are talking about relationship stuff bring this up. Let her know that sex is vital for a relationship to work. The two of you wouldn't be together in a relationship without sex. Sex is the bond you share in a relationship, and without it there is a feeling of emptiness inside you (sounds cheesy, I know). Hell, I know people who are busier than the two of you and still find time to screw like rabbits. If she gives you the run-around or any other BS call her on it.


thecraftylefty

 

[Climax]

Some Advise...

1) Bring some life to the relationship... STOP BEING BORING! Take her different places, do new things, etc.

2) Take command! If you want sex, don’t ask, demand, and unless she has a really good reason NOT to have sex, then u tell her that its bullsh!t, and then u take things away from her! So if SHE wants sex, YOU tell HER that YOU don’t feel like it, let her see how it feels. She wants to go out somewhere? Tell her that you are tired, or some other bullsh!t excuse. Then if that doesn’t help, tell her that either she satisfies your sexual desires, or she can go find herself another guy that will put up with her bullsh!t.

3) Communicate with her! Ask her WHY she is constantly NOT in the mood to have sex anymore, etc.

4) When it comes to sex, even though u might not like it or feel like it, DO NOT NEGLECT FOREPLAY! Always, or at least MOST times start off with some foreplay before moving on to sex. And remember; do NOT do the same thing over and over again, because she WILL get bored... Do different things, do it in different places, etc.

5) Not something that I am fond of doing myself, but it works.... MAKE HER JELOUS... When u go out with her and u are with other girl friends, flirt a BIT, just enough to make your gf jealous.. SHOW her that other girls ALSO want you and that if she gives u sh!t you would easily go and get with another chick... Make her feel like she needs to EARN the right to be with you..... When you are together and u feel like having sex with her, DONT put on a begging act, or anything of that sort... U tell her straight that u wanna f*ck her brains out and that she better be ready for a "rough ride" or something of that sort.

Something that is good to "get her in the mood" is if you do something romantic or turning on before u let her know u want sex... So Go for a walk on the beach or something.

Have a pillow fight (trust me, this works wonders.. it gets a lot of kino, and for some reason gives both of you an erge to f*ck each other.. try it and let me know)

For some, watching soft p0rn works well to get "turned on"

Buy some massage oils, start with a massage which will lead to sex.

Get some cream/body chocolate spread or something and lick it off each other and play some fun and kinky games with it.

DANCE with one another, getting some nice kino going, and another little hint for you guys... while slow dancing with her, lightly tickle her thighs... tickle from her inner thighs and work your way up to her hips.

Use your SPEACH to your advantage.... you can talk in a way to her that will turn her on... u can say things like "Wouldn't you like it if I were to run my hands down your delicate body, kissing it all over" (while saying this u lightly do what u are saying.. SO in other words, instead of just doing it and keeping quiet, say to her what u are doing too... I'm not gonna get into the whole psychological reasoning, but just know that her HEARING it will help in turning her on)

There are many other things that you can do, just think... put yourself in her position, look at yourself as an "observer", try see what u are doing wrong, where you can improve, etc.

Good luck to you all


Laterz....

 

[AnkleBreaker]

Just a side note but girl i know has had a b/f for 4 years and he hasnt been gettin any for 2 months why? Cause im the one hittin it .

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by AnkleBreaker
Just a side note but girl i know has had a b/f for 4 years and he hasnt been gettin any for 2 months why? Cause im the one hittin it .

And yet another reason not to deal with this kind of horse sh*t.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Any woman that utters the words, "Is all our relationship about just sex?" or "Why is sex so important to you?" or "I don't understand why sex is such a big deal for guys" is an automatic NEXT. You should be sarging for new prospects within half an hour of her saying anything like this.

I think CRAIG is on the right path here, you've allowed her to be in control of the intimacy and now the relationship is on her terms. I've been married about 9 years now and I can expect sex at least twice a week with a BJ or 2 thrown in for the weeks she's on the rag. And I complain about this not being frequent enough with her because it dropped off from 3-4 times a week (sometimes twice a day) after we got married.

Stop starving yourself, you're not married, you have every opportunity to hit it with other women right now. Now might be the best time to evaluate her; if she's only putting out (when she feels like it) this frequently, I can assure you it will be even less if you married her. Like CRAIG stated, there's a reason her former lover bailed on her and it wasn't because he was the problem. I thinkyou're finding out why he moved on to better prospects.

She's gotten to the point where she thinks she's secure and is dictating the terms now since she believes she's your only source for sex and there's no clear and present competition for your attention. Take this away from her today. It'll feel wrong at first, but you'll notice a complete 180 in her atittude if you can stick to your plan.

The problem with the advice I've read here telling you to romance her more or work her up a bit before you approach for sex is that this is girl advice, from the standpoint of how chicks would like the world to cater to them. None of this considers the fact that sex for guys is like taking a p!ss, you've got to go when you've got to go and if she's not interested enough in taking care of her man, he's going to find a source somewhere else one way or another. Inject a woman with 50 times the amount of testosterone she would naturally produce (what men produce) daily for a month and then only allow her some kind of sexual release twice in that month and we'll see how important the "intimacy" or the "emotional" act is for her.

You can empathize all day long with this 'poor', tired, girl, but all it boils down to is a manipulation of this guy for her blatantly apparent lack of desire for this guy. She's not into it and she knows she's not into it, but seemingly thinks she can turn the guy into what she thinks he ought to be. He can communicate (women call this 'whining' or 'sulking') to her how he wants more sex or he can romance her till hell freezes, but it wont make her any more desirous for his sexual attentions. Oh, he might convince her to put out more often for a while, but what difference will it make if she's just a dead lay, acquiescing to his complaints? You may as well beat off to porn in that case because it's her desire for sex with him that's at issue.

It's real easy for uninvolved guys (or girls) to call out the NEXT advice when it doesn't affect them, but I'm saying NEXT this b!tch today. You'll see the turnaround in her desire at that point to be sure, but stick to it because you've seen the future now.

 

[dietzcoi]

You all better listen to Rollo T.

I cannot believe the symps who come up with excuses for the woman and blame the man when she doesn't want sex, etc, etc.

It is not (necessarily) the man's fault.. it could be a control move or her part, or she could hate sex, etc.

You better run away from this one or you will fight this issue for the rest of the time you are together. It won't magically improve

Dietzcoi

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by whistler
This will come off as condescending and egotistical... (it's not meant to be).

In all of my LTR's (a few), I've had sex 5 to 20 times a week, even after 18 months together.


You need to understand women.

They live in a more emotional world. Sex isn't just a physical experience.

You can't routinely skip foreplay and expect that she'll be satisfied. Because you're missing a big part of the experience...


Sex is an emotional wave that melds into a physical one for a while and then back again.

If you skip the transitional parts (foreplay, cuddling afterward) it's abrupt, awkward, and unnatural for her.

Women on this board -- back me up if you agree, or clarify this if you can.

Getting women ready for sex is like warming up your car in the winter. If you don't warm both up you won't be driving either one of them too long or very often.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

And if the car's engine is broke in the first place no amount whining or compromise is going to start the engine.

Time to upgrade to this year's model.

Vroom, vroom,..
:woo:

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
And if the car's engine is broke in the first place no amount whining or compromise is going to start the engine.

Time to upgrade to this year's model.

Vroom, vroom,..
:woo:

Now, now Rollo...everyone knows that with proper maintenance and care of the engine it is good for many, many miles. In fact, neglect is the number one cause of broken down engines. :crackup:

(I wonder how far we can take this car analogy thing...)

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
One of the most important things to consider it the BUMPER. If it is sagging down a little bit the value of the "car" will go way down!

You must remember to press the right BUTTONS to open the door. :crackup:

You know you've got a match when the key fits perfectly in the lock! :crazy:

Well, I think the most important thing to remember is that unless the engine has proper lubrication (through maintenance and warming it up first), the friction isn't so good for the engine, or pleasant. :woo:

 

[SheDevil]

Re: Re: Re: I rarely get sex anymore with GF of 2 yrs. WTF?

Originally posted by jamescr73
Actually she is very worried about losing me, and she has made it very clear that she doesnt want to leave me or break up with me. She and her ex from like 3 yrs ago's whole relationship was based just on sex. They had sex nearly every day. She really had no emotional attachment and he just treated her like sh1t all the time so she finally left. She has made it clear to me that we dont have that type of relationship and when I bring up the subject of sex I get asked "is that all our relationship is to you is sex, is that all thats important to you?" Well the answer is no, its not all thats important, its just what is lacking.

I just have to question how much she cares for you. I am sorry to say this, but her actions are speaking louder then her words.

My best friend has a very low sex drive, always has. She has never had an orgasm and really doesnt care. She has three daughters and a part time job so she is busy and tired at times too.

BUT she loves making love with her husband, she loves the way he enjoys her, she loves their intimate time together, she loves that after 18 years of marriage he still desires her and she loves the way she can make him feel so good. She reminds herself to initiate sex and she seduces him for his added pleasure. Because she LOVES him.

No, sex isnt all their marriage is made of, but she knows it is important to him and one of his needs.

Your girlfriend stayed in a loveless/sexual relationship, where she was treated like shyt, why?

She is now with you, in a selfish and almost sexless relationship, why?

It makes me think that she just wants the position of "boyfriend" filled. She doesnt want to be alone.

To me, her selfish actions and statements, show what is in her heart.

I feel that if she is truly worried about losing you, if she really cared for you, and she knows you desire a more active sex life, she would want to meet that desire.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Comparing their signatures looks like SuperGigalo and Wyldfire have a thing going on - what's up with that??

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

DJ James and SuperGigalo - You young foolish bastards!!! If a woman ever denied me even once - she would be dismissed!!! I may excuse her if she is on her death bed but other than that I dictate the policy on all matters including sex!! You bastards absolutely have lost control!!!

Once you let a woman get away with shyt such as when we are going to physically unite then you have lost control of her and have lost your minds!!!

Never let a woman dictate the agenda!!!!

How in sam-hilll can you be a Gigalo and have an sexual encounter once a month??? You poser!!

 

[Krassus]

Originally posted by jamescr73
We still have time to hang out and watch a movie, or go out to dinner, or just sit on the couch and watch tv, but why dont we have 45 minutes to have sex anymore?

Because you're telling all this to an ONLINE MESSAGE BOARD instead of... HER!

 

[Climax]

Try this...

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
Comparing their signatures looks like SuperGigalo and Wyldfire have a thing going on - what's up with that??

I think clicking on the link that is in both of their sigs will help you answer that question


Laterz...

 

[MG81]

I agree with pretty much everything stated here. I've been in an LTR for about 4 months now, and to start with, sex was on the menu every night, and we both enjoyed it to the extreme, trying various techniques out etc.

Lately, though, it's become a once-a-week thing, (if that), usually in missionary position (whereas before it was all sorts of posiitons), with no foreplay, just a 10min session under the covers.

Anytime I show affection to her, it's always the same 'i'm tired' , 'i've got a headache' or some other medical afflication that happens to crop up. This woman says she loves me, and wants to grow old with me, yet most of the time, she's in a foul mood.

Guys, it's got to the point, where she almost makes me feel dirty and guilty because of my sexual desires, and sex is like a 'reward' - basically she dictates when it happens, and any attempts by me to turn her on ie, when we lie on the sofa together, are basically ignored in favour of tedious home make-over shows.

Hope you don't think I'm moaning here (well, I am I guess!), just wanted to get it off my chest, and share it as a cautionary tale.

Cheers

 

[Climax]

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Sex question for the ladies...

Sex question for the ladies... here.NoEscape: My saga continues.
Heres the deal---wife and I are trying to work things out...key word is trying. We get along well and are trying not to discuss whats "wrong" with our relationship every night. Although sometimes we do anyway(usually prompted by me and my trust issues--I am not accusatory--just want to make sure this is what she wants) So on monday we had some pretty passionate love making. With I love yous exchanged during(her to me first). It was really great, hot, warm and loving.
So this weekend we planned on spending the whole weekend together with the baby. We had some flirting thru email thruout the day(mostly me) I came home last night--I bought dinner-put baby to sleep. We then sat in dining room...she proceeded to tell me how tired she was--no biggie I guess. A friend dropped by...they procedded to chat(me as well) for about 90 minutes. She left---I then decided to come on to her. She said she was too tired--we went back and forth a bit and ultimately went to sleep. She felt guilty about not giving me sex and I felt rejected. Of course thoughts wander thru my head...maybe shes havign sex with someone else, maybe she doesnt want sex from me because theres no emotional connect...I dont know.
Next morning she is still feeling guilty I guess about turning me down. So when our kids went to nap she showered and said lets go. I showered....was psyched.
This time was sooo different from monday...no passsion from her. We did it but it was cold. She had an orgasm but it was clear to me she wasnt into it...what does this mean? We have NEVER had sex like this before. She was always wayyyy into it. Even a few days ago. Im confused.

Re:Sex question for the ladies... Shanna: Sometimes I JUST don't want it. It isn't anything personal for the guy I am with....I just cannot get into it sometimes. I think it is a hormonal thing or something....who knows....Just don't over think yourself into jealousy and hurt feelings.

Re:Sex question for the ladies... ChristyM: NE-
Try not to read too much into this. Women put a lot of thought and feelings into sex and most likely she did feel guilty about not giving you some the previous night. I myself have a hard time faking it so I probably would have come across like she did. I would honestly want to do it to make sure you understood I was still wanting to keep working on the relationship but it would have been hard for me to be all passionate in that circumstance. Did that just make sense?

Believe me, if she didn't want to have sex, you all wouldn't have had sex.

ChristyRe:Sex question for the ladies... sheydp: A few days ago there was anticipation, excitement, the waiting built to a great time... This time it was obligatory sex. The sex you have because you feel you have to. Guys, if you want to keep girls happy, NEVER, NEVER let them give you obligatory sex. It may stimulate their bodies and appease their guilt, but it won't get them in the head or heart, and that is where truly great sensuosness and sexuality come from. I had lots of obligatory sex because he wouldn't take the time and effort necessary to stimulate my mind/heart first (not that I am saying this is like you, NoEscape - you know better than that, I KNOW you do ). But I'll tell you, have enough sex because you feel like you owe someone, eventually you feel like a blow-up doll! Heres my body, have fun, I'll come back when its over! If you aren't 100% sure she wants it with all her body/mind, don't let her - the sex next time will be so worth the wait! (Besides, in private, your hand needs a workout too!. Did I say that? ) Sorry to be so crude, but you asked!Re:Sex question for the ladies... ChristyM: I completely agree with Sheydp ...

She did it because she thought it was what you wanted. When it becomes about what YOU want and she's not doing it for HER, then it's all downhill from there.

Guys, when you sense your lady isn't into it (for whatever reason), then try really hard to shut off those hormones and tell her you'd rather just lay together. It might be hard in the short run but it will definitely benefit you in the long run.

ChristyRe:Sex question for the ladies... Crushed: No Escape ~

I generally avoid these threads because I know (feel anyway based on my close discussions with my many friends) that I'm not necessarily the 'norm' in this type of situation)...that being said, this is what I would be inclined to think...again...this is just me).

I love to connect with my partner in an emotional, physical and spiritual way (which can only intensify the act of making love/having sex). However, I also believe that the occasional surprise of getting into the shower with him while he thinks I'm still asleep in bed, soaping up both of us without saying anthing, looking into his eyes so he knows what is coming for his pleasure, it hotter than some other things that we could share.

I realize (especially women~and I'm one of 'em too), that women tend to make love with their minds and bodies (how we've been getting along) with our partners, while men seem to generally make love at that given moment (things were good when we woke up this morning)...it can make a difference. What is wrong witht he occasional raunchy roll (feelings or conflict too) sometimes making it that much more exciting? Neither one of you is admitting the other is right, but you're maintaining that physical (adding to the emotional) feelings that seem to be suffering at that moment? If you're getting along, great! But if you aren't, it will make those differences seem so much smaller and open you up to discuss them, especially afer being satisfied by the one you love. Right? Am I comletely up in the night? If so, I will tell you this is not something I've dreamed about, this worked for 15 years and was fabulous!! Just a thought...

Crushed Re:Sex question for the ladies... sheydp: I agree, those surprise boffs can be fantastic! I really like the shower thing - or a massage can jump start it, too - lots of oil! (That can even be followed by a shower... hmmm...) That said, though, both parties have to be willing to buy in... If you start it and you see reluctance, you have to be willing to shut it down. Usually guys are more willing to buy in, but even they have times when exhaustion, stress, or emotional baggage make it hard to jump into that... Women may be willing, too, but trying to jump right in when she doesn't want it can be a disaster, too!

Re:Sex question for the ladies... Shanna: Sometimes if the guy takes his time the woman can change from Cold to HOT and actually want it. I need some preptime....my stbxh never gave me that so sex was a um....chore. My new guy takes the time to make me feel wanted and special and all that and I get into it. STILL though there are times when I still don't really have the "need", but if he takes the time to prime me....I can enjoy the mental/emtional connection and just enjoy the physical....with no umm....goal.


Am I making sense?

Re:Sex question for the ladies... sheydp: TOTALLY!!! That is true... If you feel like they are only pleasing you to get to sex, it is hard to get into it. If they are just "screwing around" because you are hot to them, that can turn on the coldest and tiredest me, at least!

Re:Sex question for the ladies... NoEscape: [quote author=sheydp link=board=1;threadid=7595;start=0#msg60797 date=1107619671]
TOTALLY!!! That is true... If you feel like they are only pleasing you to get to sex, it is hard to get into it. If they are just "screwing around" because you are hot to them, that can turn on the coldest and tiredest me, at least!
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Well--my wife has told me that everytime I give her a massage or kiss her neck it ALWAYS leads to sex.or at least me wanting it...I am trying to get away from that..believe me. But its hard to reverse years of that...
Sometimes with the baby its so hard to find any TIME to do it, whenever theres an opportunity I just want it ! When nighttime rolls around my wife is very tired, sometimes I just take it as a lack of interest even though she tells me she thinks of me during the day and has big plans for sex but by the time the day is over she is exhausted. I tried to take care of dinner and baby and I feel we are getting along pretty well so I thought the stage was set. I didnt account for the whole tired thing...plus she seemed really lively talking to her friend. I guess sometimes I want my wife just to look at my muscles and be like.."DO ME NOW !" --Thats the way I feel when I see her in tight pants.. .
-I guess I am just being a guy but I am open to changing so any suggestions..let em fly. I am trying to rule out she has hots for anyone else....which I dont *think* is the case. So lets keep that out of the picture.

 

[Climax]

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Re:Sex question for the ladies... ChristyM:

if he takes the time to prime me

This cracked me up. I think I'll have to start using that phrase!

And NE ... sometimes like the other ladies said you can just pick up on her signals and then go to bed. While you're laying there, just ask her if you can cuddle with her and then after a few minutes, lightly touch her arm, her leg, play with her hair, whatever. Do it slow and gentle and see if she doesn't respond to your touch. It relaxed me and that helped turn me on. This almost ALWAYS worked with me b/c it gave me the impression the ex was willing to take the time to get me in the mood. He made it about me, not him.

ChristyRe:Sex question for the ladies... sheydp: SO TRUE! You should always do it, even when you are ok with giving up sex, just so she knows she is special to you whether she is up to "putting out" or not.

I'll shut up now- you got the long version of my advice earlier! LOL Re:Sex question for the ladies... Crushed: Maybe I misunderstood something that was posted after my post. I just wanted to clarify that I what I was saying is, just like we love our children, we may not be completely happy with the way they are acting at a given moment, morning, day, etc but we love them just the same.

Are we less likely to express our love and patience with them just because we're not necessarily feeling the same level (not level, but overriding feelings) at that given moment? No, we continue to show and and express our unconditional love for them, whether they are throwing a fit, being withdrawn, etc.

Consistency is so important in any relationship. As we all know, circumstances change our feelings like the wind can, but it is up to us to even recognize the feelings/reactions and apply them in the most honest/beneficial way possible way, further cementing the perception of our loved ones just as much as for ourselves. Make any sense?

Just let me say, if my SO raped me or forced me to do something I don't feel is something I have in me, I'd be outta there...my point is just simply to let down our walls because we can and we want to. I won't ever let those walls take presidence over my desire to show the person I love what they are more / far more than my ego.

Crushed Re:Sex question for the ladies... sheydp: If you meant me, I didn't mean to suggest that you were suggesting he push her!!! I didn't mean that at all! I got what you were saying and totally agreed with it! I was just adding on - since he is the one letting down walls, and we can't tell her that, so I just wanted to warn him not to push too hard if she doesn't just jump on board with the idea, thats all! Sorry! :-[Re:Sex question for the ladies... NoEscape: good replies girls. We just spent most of the day together... I told her earlier "thanks for taking one for the team"--she said she enjoyed it anyway just that it was hard to rush into sex mode immediately..(kids were sleeping) which I totally understand. We had a nice day...she told me how happy she is to be with me. things are looking up!Re:Sex question for the ladies... Spectrum: Okay...... "Taking one for the team?" That phrase should just tell you something right there!

If she has to "take one for the team," then when do you have to "take one for the team?" How exactly would *you* go about "taking one for the team?" Would you surprise her with a ton of great oral sex and then just let her lounge in it afterwards? Or would you perhaps just give her a massage when she is feeling tired and then then just kiss her goodnight afterwards when she was ready to sleep? Or would you give her that massage and then snuggle up to her when she was ready to doze off and try to eke some sex out of it?

I'm sorry, I didn't intend this post to go this way by any means, but that phrase just really rubbed me the wrong way.

I spent years "taking one(s) for the team" and all it ever did was make sex feel like an obligation. I was depressed and unhappy in my relationship and in my life. I worked hard and was often exhausted at the end of my day and not interested in sex. My ex did little to help get me primed (his idea of romance was, "Hey, wanna have sex?" while raising his eyebrows and gesturing towards the bedroom).

And to echo the sentiment of an earlier poster, if your wife is giving you obligatory sex, no matter how happy you are you got a piece afterwards, she's going to start feeling like a piece of meat with a hole in it after a while.... And that is a downward spiral you do *not* want to get in.

So please..... don't thank her for "taking one for the team." That isn't a good thing, I promise. It is a bad, bad thing for your relationship. You need to find out how to get her to want it, not how to get her to give it.

Spectrum.Re:Sex question for the ladies... Crushed: sheydp~

Thanks, no offense taken. I completely agreed with you on your point about not forcing it on her. You and I seem to think alike. Scary, huh?

Take care....

Crushed Re:Sex question for the ladies... NoEscape: [quote author=Spectrum link=board=1;threadid=7595;start=15#msg60841 date=1107645832]
Okay...... "Taking one for the team?" That phrase should just tell you something right there!

If she has to "take one for the team," then when do you have to "take one for the team?" How exactly would *you* go about "taking one for the team?" Would you surprise her with a ton of great oral sex and then just let her lounge in it afterwards? Or would you perhaps just give her a massage when she is feeling tired and then then just kiss her goodnight afterwards when she was ready to sleep? Or would you give her that massage and then snuggle up to her when she was ready to doze off and try to eke some sex out of it?

I'm sorry, I didn't intend this post to go this way by any means, but that phrase just really rubbed me the wrong way.

I spent years "taking one(s) for the team" and all it ever did was make sex feel like an obligation. I was depressed and unhappy in my relationship and in my life. I worked hard and was often exhausted at the end of my day and not interested in sex. My ex did little to help get me primed (his idea of romance was, "Hey, wanna have sex?" while raising his eyebrows and gesturing towards the bedroom).

And to echo the sentiment of an earlier poster, if your wife is giving you obligatory sex, no matter how happy you are you got a piece afterwards, she's going to start feeling like a piece of meat with a hole in it after a while.... And that is a downward spiral you do *not* want to get in.

So please..... don't thank her for "taking one for the team." That isn't a good thing, I promise. It is a bad, bad thing for your relationship. You need to find out how to get her to want it, not how to get her to give it.

Spectrum.
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Well Spec--"taking one for the team" was my expression not hers. And we never have sex like that...really. I really do believe in pleasing my wife. I feel bad if I dont. and I would "take one for the team" anytime. Giving her oral and then lettting her bask in it? No problem. She told me that she actually orgasmed twice earlier...I guess it was just my interpretation. As my friend on this board "SadEyes" has told
me.."sometimes your gut is wrong"
I plan on "taking one for the team" tonight. With pleasure Re:Sex question for the ladies... sheydp: Be careful about the orgasm thing - we can orgasm and mean it only with our bodies... You have the right idea, though - you talked with her about it! Big step, great idea, gets you on the same page, intimate discussion that can lead to closer feelings - Congratulations! I doubt if you will ever feel that unconnected feeling again as long as you are talking about it!

So how did that evening work out?

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[CraigMack]

Originally posted by SuperGigaloDJ
One of the most important things to consider it the BUMPER. If it is sagging down a little bit the value of the "car" will go way down!

You must remember to press the right BUTTONS to open the door. :crackup:

You know you've got a match when the key fits perfectly in the lock! :crazy:

This isn't a flame but you should consider changing your screen name. As Puerto Lover is implying, it's miss-leading.

How about something that reflects the real you:

SuperLTR'r
SuperNiceGuy
Superfootrubberofwomen

Anything but the word gigalo of which your not:

http://www.gigolo.com/home.htm

I guess there is a site for everything under the sun.

And you might want to take off the DJ. This is the problem leading to confusion on this forum.

A Don Juan, and if your going by the original story of Don Juan is a seducer of women. He was not involved in LTR's. He was a hit it and quit it type.

Anything else other than that leads to confusion. I've seen posts state that a Don Juan is a real man who is working on himself.

I say hogwash. Go read the original story:

Don Juan, the ``Seducer of Seville,'' originated as a hero-villain of Spanish folk legend, and his fame spread through the rest of Europe in the 17th century. The many versions of his story include a play by Moliere (``The Stone Feast,'' 1665), a long poem by Byron (``Don Juan,'' 1819-24), and an opera by Mozart (``Don Giovanni,'' 1787).

http://www.cco.caltech.edu/~tacit/hell/djplot.html