"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I opened the gates of hell...

Apprentice DJ

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Hey guys,
Apprentice DJ here.... you can see a post i made a few days ago about the chick not letting me touch her... its called "she won't let me touch her"
its basically me using kino on her but she always drew a line about not letting me give her a massage

anyways...during some time spent together, i said i wanted to get to know her and stuff.... at first she was hard to break, not very open and stuff so we kept on talking about the fact that she had a cold attitude about not letting me massage her and stuff...conversation went on for a few minutes about how or why she was like this so i used the intuitive technique on the website (basically saying that i can see from her actions that she is like this because she's afraid to get hurt or that she's afraid to hurt others by being too close or open to them) then out of nowhere:

she opens herself (intellectually of course) she outpoors all of her bfs and heartbreaks to me.... i mean in that 20 minutes i think i heard all of her relationship problems...EVER.

now.... how should i handle this? is this a good sign cus she feels comfortable and intimate with me or... is it the deadly im so in the friends zone that even Barney doesnt arrive to my ankles?

advice please!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Until you kiss her all this stuff means nothing.
 

Apprentice DJ

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I need advice, not someone stating me the obvious.

How should i play this now?
 

Marlimus

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As far as she is concerned, you do not have a penis. Move on.
 

00Kevin

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I don't kiss a girl until she grabs my ****.

That is why I have a girl friend that is already in love with me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Great Stuff 00Kevin... again!

but how did you get to that point?
lol
 

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I think you need to stop analyzing, take her out on the most 'datish' date you can, and kiss her. If she denies your advances, get rid of her. No questions, no analyzing, no stipulations, just cut her off.

It's not definitely a bad sign that she's opening up to you, you just have to let her know that you want to be with her on a romantic level and not on a Dr. Phil level.
 

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dude girls like this are goin to give you a run for your money. if shes been hurt recently then she probalby has a one track mind. dont put up with her bs. she probably has low self esteem. if you want her as a gf then you need to show her that your diffent dont bone immediatley cause as soon as she bones some dude shell feel all used and hurt so be there for her but not too much. but the main thing is deny her at first of doing anythign with you. then open up and do whatever that should be sufficient
 
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