"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I noticed something

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Whenever I'm in class and talk to a girl or girls in general..the rest of the class watches me run techniques and overall game sporadically on various girls. People just like listen in on my conversation. Does this mean that I need to shut up?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't know why, but I think your black, so everyone assumes you have game and want to learn...Make a joke out of those fvckers and def dont shut up.
 

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Perhaps he's the only black man in the room and they are afraid he might steal something.

(Humor folks):box: (Pow Pow)
 

i am me

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theyre intimidated (in a good way) or they think u talk too much. either way, shouldnt be too hard to tell. as long as wut ur doin is working then dont change much
 

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its definatly a good thing. Think about the kind of people you may have at some point 'listened in' on, its because you somehow valued what they had to say and wanted to hear it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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One of the greatest social proof tactics involves people who are eavesdropping. Catch them and be friendly, incorporate them into your conversations. AMOG them gently so you can defuse them as obstacles, but still keep them around as friends or social proof otherwise.

Example:
You're talking to some girl next to you in class, and a few guys are listening in.
To the girl: You should say Hi to those guys, they seem like they're really interested in our conversation.
(You've just AMOGed the other guys by immediately telegraphing their needy/interested status. In addition, you have incorporated them into your conversation, so you have the opportunity to use them to show DHVs)

-Damian
 

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On a more serious note it could be a good or bad thing.

I know quite a few kids who are extremely loud and annoying, when they open their mouth we usually stare at them so they know to shut up after they tell their first joke that only they laugh at.

But it could also be a good thing. Although I kind of doubt they'd make it so obvious they are trying to pick up tips from you though.
 

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if people ever tell you "shutup no one likes you" or "you talk too much", theres a good shot that you should shutup cause no one likes you and you talk too much.
 

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No it means they have no game and wanan see how you do it. Once i macked some girl in front of some fat dude and i know he was listening to everything...that was when i wasnt as good as i am now.
 

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yeah if you dont get people saying stuff like that to you, you've probably reached a state of alpha maledom
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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no one says sh*t. They just turn around and listen to what I have to say.
 

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r u black? lol i am, myspace.com/sbloodz
 

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E_ze05 said:
r u black? lol i am, myspace.com/sbloodz
i bet you like g unit huh?
 
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