"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Whenever I'm in class and talk to a girl or girls in general..the rest of the class watches me run techniques and overall game sporadically on various girls. People just like listen in on my conversation. Does this mean that I need to shut up?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't know why, but I think your black, so everyone assumes you have game and want to learn...Make a joke out of those fvckers and def dont shut up.
 

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Perhaps he's the only black man in the room and they are afraid he might steal something.

(Humor folks):box: (Pow Pow)
 

i am me

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theyre intimidated (in a good way) or they think u talk too much. either way, shouldnt be too hard to tell. as long as wut ur doin is working then dont change much
 

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its definatly a good thing. Think about the kind of people you may have at some point 'listened in' on, its because you somehow valued what they had to say and wanted to hear it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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One of the greatest social proof tactics involves people who are eavesdropping. Catch them and be friendly, incorporate them into your conversations. AMOG them gently so you can defuse them as obstacles, but still keep them around as friends or social proof otherwise.

Example:
You're talking to some girl next to you in class, and a few guys are listening in.
To the girl: You should say Hi to those guys, they seem like they're really interested in our conversation.
(You've just AMOGed the other guys by immediately telegraphing their needy/interested status. In addition, you have incorporated them into your conversation, so you have the opportunity to use them to show DHVs)

-Damian
 

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On a more serious note it could be a good or bad thing.

I know quite a few kids who are extremely loud and annoying, when they open their mouth we usually stare at them so they know to shut up after they tell their first joke that only they laugh at.

But it could also be a good thing. Although I kind of doubt they'd make it so obvious they are trying to pick up tips from you though.
 

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if people ever tell you "shutup no one likes you" or "you talk too much", theres a good shot that you should shutup cause no one likes you and you talk too much.
 

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No it means they have no game and wanan see how you do it. Once i macked some girl in front of some fat dude and i know he was listening to everything...that was when i wasnt as good as i am now.
 

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yeah if you dont get people saying stuff like that to you, you've probably reached a state of alpha maledom
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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no one says sh*t. They just turn around and listen to what I have to say.
 

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r u black? lol i am, myspace.com/sbloodz
 

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E_ze05 said:
r u black? lol i am, myspace.com/sbloodz
i bet you like g unit huh?
 
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