You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
thewarrior said:This is a BIG problem for me. When girls ask me questions, I'm a little too up-front. I noticed players give BS answers to almost every question a girl asks. How long does this go on? Can I start being more real after the second date or what?
thewarrior said:Can I start being more real after the second date or what?
Be real on the first encounter.Freeman said:What do you mean by BS answers? Give some examples.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I think you misunderstood what I was referring too-I was asking warrior what is the particular situation that HE is in that is preplexing him-I aint got the best game but what you talking about, although true, is no new game to me- I was asking warrior about his situation for an elaborationRyoku said:Be real on the first encounter.
Playful bs-ing should be a character quality you posses. If you have to be FAKE then a chick will usually see through it.
But if you're genuine in your silliness then she won't really care until its time to be serious.
There are a billion ways to answer - "What do you do for a living?"
"I'm a secret agent, but don't tell any one."
"I was just hired by the club to stand here and look good."
"The President."
"Yes."
It depends on YOUR character, you need to stop DOING man. And start being. Stop trying to learn, just be.
She would be amazing, I'd keep her. Most chicks don't do humor but they appreciate it.thewarrior said:Couple more questions, should this joking only be done during the first conversation? Wouldn't it be inappropriate on a first date? How would you feel if you ask a chick serious questions and she kept joking around?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This is seriously a great point that I think more people need to be made aware of.DonGorgon said:Women dont want straight answers.. they want emotional pules and pushes... which is why they will often ask you silly questions on purpose.. Women are not stimulated by logic .. they are turned on my fascinating romantic musings and tales of great passion.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.