"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I notice when I give myself a month of not chasing women

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......I end up with a bunch of plates once I come back to the game.

What do you mean Fatal, is what your asking?

This is what I mean, an entire month not thinking about a woman, not lusting after a woman (ie drooling over a woman), staying focus on all you need to focus (small things that lead to big things such as cleaning house, cleaning your car, write out a business plan, do some traveling, change your hair style, change your wardrobe, etc.). Chasing and thinking about women takes a ton of energy you guys.

It takes so much energy to the point you can drain yourself out and get frustrated with the games women play.

All women play games, it's just in them and no woman will stay with you forever. That's just the harsh truth, all my long term relationship people know what I mean by this, she is with you but her mind is not with you.

You have to go back to that masculine energy. Spend a month enjoying yourself (and I'm not talking about porn or masturbation either, this can give you a feminine energy after awhile) enjoy the things that you love to do. Try one thing new.

Then once your month is up, return back to the game. Trust me they are not going anywhere fellaz.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yep, after not being single for about ten years i decided to focus only on myself. Improving myself in every area i can, going to the gym, fixing up my house, buying new clothes, changing my hair style and growing a beard.= Women practically throwing themselves at me. But more importantly my self worth and self esteem has risen sharply! That's something a women hasn't done for me....hmmm ever! Best personal investment i've made in a long time if not ever.
 

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Exactly and the thing about it is that month fly by fast. Yes it times where you look out for others, but most of this journey we call life is about improving and fixing ourselves, making time out for ourselves, loving ourselves.
 

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So why do you stop after ONLY one month? Do that for a life long and perhaps one day you will cross the path of a woman who does the exact same thing and is not a gamer.
 

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So why do you stop after ONLY one month? Do that for a life long and perhaps one day you will cross the path of a woman who does the exact same thing and is not a gamer.
Agreed, I chose the latter. My change isn't going to be temporary the perks are just to great and I see the light. I'm going on only 3 weeks and I already feel completely different about myself. Hell just today I had to turn down my hb8 dtf regular that was supposed to come over to my house for some fun because I have homework and the gym to hit up. The more I love myself and give myself attention and care the happier I am. It's a great revelation.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So why do you stop after ONLY one month? Do that for a life long and perhaps one day you will cross the path of a woman who does the exact same thing and is not a gamer.
You have a point brother
 

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I think you have to do this at least a couple of times in a year or those life chores just pile up. and look maybe I'm a soft **** but I find plating for too long erodes me. the ones I'm keen on never pan out and I have to dump the others. and of course I am red pill I know the chicks would do it to you in a heartbeat with a happy smile on their face but I'm just not wired that way
 

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This is a great thread. It's easy to get caught up in what other people want and forget what you/I need.
You tend to yourself bro, you will have full access to the world. It all starts in the inside, because after awhile you chase women and lose yourself in it.
 

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You have to go back to that masculine energy. Spend a month enjoying yourself (and I'm not talking about porn or masturbation either, this can give you a feminine energy after awhile) enjoy the things that you love to do.
Wow, I thought it was just me... After spanking the monkey, I always get the urge to put on a pink dress, and go shopping! Lol!!! /verbal irony
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Every next step up the staircase requires extra work. You may not have the energy to do both. Once you get up that step, you can rest a bit until you are ready for the next sustained effort to go higher. In the down time, you can chase skirts. rinse and repeat until you have reached your goal
 
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