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[zidane]

I need some help.
I am a newbie to this site and this site is the gold.
There is this girl i went on a date with(Coffee) in my college and to some extend we did not connect well.I liked Hip hop and she was a rock and roll b1tch.I liked blue while she liked green.We were both science majors.
On the date i tried to touch her hands when we were walking towards the dorms but she declined and did not ask her why,because when we were having coffee she was holding coffee with both hands.
She told me she did not have a boyfriend but was seeing somebody. She told me she wanted to be friends.
We are in the same class together so i wanted to avoid theLJBF zone.(We see each other every other day but we dont talk).We dont even EC because all the time in class she is looking somewhere else.
So after three days, i wanted to ask her on a date( Teach her some african dance) and she did not pick up and her phone is those ones that u cannot leave a message.
What should i do?

 

[DinoCassanova]

Zidane, no offense but I would forget this one. Sounds like she's just not that into you for whatever reasons. It's nothing personal; how could it be she doesn't even really know you. A good thing I've used to help remember not to take these kinds of things personally is to remember what I call the video game theory. Remember when we were younger and played all those Nintendo games and stuff? You know how many times we had to "die" , many times getting much further than others, before we'd mastered a "level" ? This DJ thing seems to be kind of like that. There will be a LOT of "Game Overs" . You just re-start and give it another shot. With that situation you described however it sounds like there is not much interest there. I'm not trying to be a d*ck , I"m just trying to tell you what feeling I get from reading what you wrote about that situation. ~Dino

 

[Legend]

i would save yourself the trouble. No sense in trying to win a girl over that already has feelings for someone else. Im in that situation right now and let me tell you that it sucks. Stop now while you are not attached to her. Avoid her completely. I wish i did this the minute i saw a red flag with the girl i "loved".

 

[syncmaster]

Once you start reading & brushing up on skills you'll realize that girls are a dime a dozen.

Read the DJ BIBLE (urgh, i hate saying that)
www.bristollair.com - 10x better than anything else.
www.puamedia.com
www.fastseduction.com

- check those out & game on.

 

[zidane]

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I was thinking that i should give her another chance by teaching her the african dance and that will be good because we are gonna touch.This will be the last one though.If she declines then ............NEXT
I was also thinking of telling her my opinion that seeing a guy is not a good that seeing a guy is not a good idea because they guy is probably looking for some other girl then dump u.

 

[syncmaster]

Re: reply

Originally posted by zidane
I was thinking that i should give her another chance by teaching her the african dance and that will be good because we are gonna touch.This will be the last one though.If she declines then ............NEXT
I was also thinking of telling her my opinion that seeing a guy is not a good that seeing a guy is not a good idea because they guy is probably looking for some other girl then dump u.

oh so much to learn...

 

[zidane]

hey

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Thanks guys for the replies and for
Syncmaster-i am new on this site so why do u say so much to learn instead of saying something silver.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Maybe she don't like dating dark people. But you want some lighter meat, gotta go for light girls that appear more ghetto ish, like Detroit, Chicago, or Philadelphia. The non coastal cities.

 

[zidane]

thanks

Hey.WTF, what do u mean by that she does not like dark people.Do u mean that she does not like dating colored people.On the date she told me that she had dated a black man, so that was not a big issue.
Another question is that if u have been on a date with a girl then u call her after three days and she does not pick up and u dont leave a message, how long should u wait?

 

[DinoCassanova]

if u have been on a date with a girl then u call her after three days and she does not pick up and u dont leave a message, how long should u wait?

>>> I would, if it were me at least, hold off on mentioning anything about African dancing to her just yet. I'm not trying to be a d*ck here, but you don't want to end up getting laughed at behind your back by this chick either. Just play it cool. Try calling her, say, tonight. If she doesn't answer, then try calling her back ONCE more, say, Thursday. If she still doesn't answer, or she answers but gives you BS vibes about going out again , tell her something like, "Ok, well listen I hate to cut this short but I've got ......... (x)......... to do tonight, so anyway , see you in class. Take it easy." And then after you say that to her, you know what you do? You hang up , and you erase her # from your phone and do not make contact with her in any way again. There are far too many other ones out there who might be interested in going out w/you for a cup of coffee, or learning about African dance, to trouble w/one who's not truly interested. This way, you've given her exactly 3 tries. Just like in baseball. If she strikes out, she's gone. Be firm about that. And don't go out of your way to say anything to her in class if / when that happens either. Just ignore her pretty much, or only say hi if she initiates. That's my best advice at least. ~Dino