"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I need to up my texting game
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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And then I try calling her again and she texts me, "Why did you call me?" I said, "Because I need to ask you a question." So I just ended up asking her to hang out through text. My friend advised me to do this because he said some women are just SO used to texting that they completely lack phone conversation skills... they're afraid of it. But this girl and I would flirt for hours in person, it's weird.
So I ended up just asking her out through text. Nothing fancy, just basically a hangout date.
What would you advise me to do in another situation like this? And did I do the right thing? I've had this happen with two other girls in the past as well.
OC Speedball said:
I can imagine this happens occasionally. Some girls (quite a lot actually) have an extreme anxiety issue when it comes to actually talking on the phone. I know this because, my friends girlfriend (who is smoking hot) added me on facebook the morning after he was arrested JUST TO ASK ME if i could ring police custody to find out if he was still there.
So a girl texts a lot? Thats fine. As long as you don't text her to the point that it bores her enough to lose interest in you, your doing your job correctly. I really wouldn't think too much of it, but as long as you are constantly keeping things new and interesting it will not harm your game.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150&highlight=fifteen+lessons
And stick at it lad. Its not rocket science, honestly.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Improve. Improvise. Overcome.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Wrong. I disagree with you on this. Texting does build attraction when it is done right, and it gets the chick thinking about you, which is exactly what you want to do. When you leave a great text, the girl will be thinking about you and your text. You don't have to have text convos to make it work. You need to be able to talk, but if you don't use texting to your advantage, you are limiting yourself.Iceberg said:
You should all read the thread in the MM forum about "texting and messages" and the replies that I left. Texting DOES work so use it.
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I didn't know there were Mystery Method forums. Can you send me the link? I googled it and couldn't find it.ELMER_GANTRY said:
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It is the Mature Man forum on hereOC Speedball said:
Here is the link
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=184373
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Not sure if you're talking to me of not, just just in case:JPlaya said:
in my 4th text I wrote "I'm going to the beach today - will I see you there?"
Her reply: "Sorry, not today - have to work".
I didn't reply until she then asked me out tonight.
the danger here is that you keep basically asking the same question - and the likelyhood is that you probably keep basically sending the same text. texts should be to set stuff up in person, otherwise you end up having a text-relationship. you must learn to not require constant text attention
if you must send texts, dont think in terms of quantity, think in terms of quality
before you send a text - look at it - why are you sending it - is it interesting? some of these texts, dudes are wondering why there is no response or late response, but there is nothing really to even respond to. a text just for the sake of it, why? dont send a text that is boring, or makes you look boring, why would you want to give that impression?
they only text first if you leave a gap for them to text in
in this particular case, this girl is not going to text first. this is because you text far too often, and worse, you text when you don't actually have anything to say - you text for the sake of it. you text because you can't cope with a period of time with no texting, you are looking for constant reassurance and validation. you need to only text when there is a reason to - or at the very least try and control yourself when you feel the need to send a text that is boring and has no point other than to try get a response
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.