"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I need to stop worrying and stop being nervous...

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When I work during sumer or Xma break, I feel so relaxed and I am so productive. I do not worry because there is no HW, no studying, just wake up and work!

However, in college I wake up worried and go to bed worried and somewhat nervous.

I can't help it. You got HW and other things and they are rated based on quaity, not how much work you put into it!

There is this constant PRESSURE!

What are ways to just relax (without alcohol) yourself and get rid of at least MOST of that nervousness and worryness?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BREATHE..... Just breathe.....
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
BREATHE..... Just breathe.....
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Not like THAT. Its this background unconscious worrynesss.... Its not that bad but its constant and it makes me unhappy.
 
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But I have a job with so many responsibilities and yet I feel safe and good with it. Only with school and college...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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