"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I need to stop worrying and stop being nervous...

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When I work during sumer or Xma break, I feel so relaxed and I am so productive. I do not worry because there is no HW, no studying, just wake up and work!

However, in college I wake up worried and go to bed worried and somewhat nervous.

I can't help it. You got HW and other things and they are rated based on quaity, not how much work you put into it!

There is this constant PRESSURE!

What are ways to just relax (without alcohol) yourself and get rid of at least MOST of that nervousness and worryness?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BREATHE..... Just breathe.....
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
BREATHE..... Just breathe.....
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Not like THAT. Its this background unconscious worrynesss.... Its not that bad but its constant and it makes me unhappy.
 
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But I have a job with so many responsibilities and yet I feel safe and good with it. Only with school and college...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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