I'm kicking myself in the ass right now. So there was this girl I would run into on my way to work. We would make small talk and she would always show interest. But why was I hesitating to ask her out? She kind of had a beak nose. It really isn't that bad, so I decided to ask her out the next time I see her...which was today. Did I ask her out? No...because I didn't like the way she was dressed...WTF is wrong with me?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I need to stop looking for perfection.
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I used to do this too. I got way too picky and crossed everyone off my list for minor appearance flaws. I don't do that as much anymore, unless she has a personality issue then its done lol.
I think with time you'll come full about and start giving yourself a little more freedom in appearance. I think its part of the internalization of the alpha male, selectiveness, knowing what you want state of minds.... after it gets in your head and is stuck there it will loosen up a bit.
As for the girl... just throw your preference to the wind and say 'Okay I might not like the way she looks, but its for my experience to ask her number or for a date.'
I think with time you'll come full about and start giving yourself a little more freedom in appearance. I think its part of the internalization of the alpha male, selectiveness, knowing what you want state of minds.... after it gets in your head and is stuck there it will loosen up a bit.
As for the girl... just throw your preference to the wind and say 'Okay I might not like the way she looks, but its for my experience to ask her number or for a date.'
WC2
Master Don Juan
I always have said, lay the foundation then get picky. In other words, make sure you can be picky before you are that picky.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Good advice. But if you aren't attracted to the woman, is it even worth it (beak nose and all)?WC2 said:I always have said, lay the foundation then get picky. In other words, make sure you can be picky before you are that picky.
Good news: I ran into the girl again the other day, I asked her out and got her number! Bad news: During the date I find out she has a boyfriend...why couldn't she just say she had a boyfriend instead of giving me her number? Lady, I don't want to go out with you if you have a boyfriend...oh well. I don't think I'll next her competely, maybe she has some good looking female friends.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Two scenarios here:Berlex said:Good news: I ran into the girl again the other day, I asked her out and got her number! Bad news: During the date I find out she has a boyfriend...why couldn't she just say she had a boyfriend instead of giving me her number? Lady, I don't want to go out with you if you have a boyfriend...oh well. I don't think I'll next her competely, maybe she has some good looking female friends.
1. She does not have a b/f but said she did so that you won't call her again - she doesn't like you!
2. She has a b/f and as most hors do - she won't leave him until she finds another pimp - nonetheless - she doesn't like you!
Both have the same outcome - she rejected you for whatever reason!
It's number 2, she has a b/f...I did some stalking on facebook. Though it just said she's in a "relationship," I'm in a "relationship" with Brook Burke on facebook so I guess it could be 1.Last Man Standing said:Two scenarios here:
1. She does not have a b/f but said she did so that you won't call her again - she doesn't like you!
2. She has a b/f and as most hors do - she won't leave him until she finds another pimp - nonetheless - she doesn't like you!
Both have the same outcome - she rejected you for whatever reason!
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