I'm kicking myself in the ass right now. So there was this girl I would run into on my way to work. We would make small talk and she would always show interest. But why was I hesitating to ask her out? She kind of had a beak nose. It really isn't that bad, so I decided to ask her out the next time I see her...which was today. Did I ask her out? No...because I didn't like the way she was dressed...WTF is wrong with me?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I need to stop looking for perfection.
- Thread starter Berlex
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I used to do this too. I got way too picky and crossed everyone off my list for minor appearance flaws. I don't do that as much anymore, unless she has a personality issue then its done lol.
I think with time you'll come full about and start giving yourself a little more freedom in appearance. I think its part of the internalization of the alpha male, selectiveness, knowing what you want state of minds.... after it gets in your head and is stuck there it will loosen up a bit.
As for the girl... just throw your preference to the wind and say 'Okay I might not like the way she looks, but its for my experience to ask her number or for a date.'
I think with time you'll come full about and start giving yourself a little more freedom in appearance. I think its part of the internalization of the alpha male, selectiveness, knowing what you want state of minds.... after it gets in your head and is stuck there it will loosen up a bit.
As for the girl... just throw your preference to the wind and say 'Okay I might not like the way she looks, but its for my experience to ask her number or for a date.'
WC2
Master Don Juan
I always have said, lay the foundation then get picky. In other words, make sure you can be picky before you are that picky.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Good advice. But if you aren't attracted to the woman, is it even worth it (beak nose and all)?WC2 said:I always have said, lay the foundation then get picky. In other words, make sure you can be picky before you are that picky.
Good news: I ran into the girl again the other day, I asked her out and got her number! Bad news: During the date I find out she has a boyfriend...why couldn't she just say she had a boyfriend instead of giving me her number? Lady, I don't want to go out with you if you have a boyfriend...oh well. I don't think I'll next her competely, maybe she has some good looking female friends.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Two scenarios here:Berlex said:Good news: I ran into the girl again the other day, I asked her out and got her number! Bad news: During the date I find out she has a boyfriend...why couldn't she just say she had a boyfriend instead of giving me her number? Lady, I don't want to go out with you if you have a boyfriend...oh well. I don't think I'll next her competely, maybe she has some good looking female friends.
1. She does not have a b/f but said she did so that you won't call her again - she doesn't like you!
2. She has a b/f and as most hors do - she won't leave him until she finds another pimp - nonetheless - she doesn't like you!
Both have the same outcome - she rejected you for whatever reason!
It's number 2, she has a b/f...I did some stalking on facebook. Though it just said she's in a "relationship," I'm in a "relationship" with Brook Burke on facebook so I guess it could be 1.Last Man Standing said:Two scenarios here:
1. She does not have a b/f but said she did so that you won't call her again - she doesn't like you!
2. She has a b/f and as most hors do - she won't leave him until she finds another pimp - nonetheless - she doesn't like you!
Both have the same outcome - she rejected you for whatever reason!
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