"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I need to get off my lazy, lethargic buttocks.

Dude Bob

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I can't believe myself. I've wasted almost the entire day goofing off surfing the Web.

I know that if I'm ever going to get over my social anxiety problems I have to get out there and do stuff. It's just that I have these "lazy days" where I feel like sitting around and doing nothing.

A question for y'all: What do you do on those days when you just feel totally lazy?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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mrRuckus

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Dude Bob said:
A question for y'all: What do you do on those days when you just feel totally lazy?

lots of hot green tea

that'll perk you up
 

realsmoothie

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Find one thing that you need to get out of the house for. Go drop off that DVD... get some toothpaste... fvck that chick... grab a coffee... wash your car... buy new underwear.

Honestly, social anxiety sucks. I have it, or had it. Took years to get over, and it really only shows up now around women I'm interested in.

But it CAN be reduced, maybe even eliminated. Remember, EVERYONE gets nervous in social circles somewhat.:up:
 
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People feel that way when they "don't see any rewards for getting up."

So you've been reading this site all day, it really does not matter. You don't think that there's any women out there for you right now, if I told you there was a hot girl waiting at the Arby's for you down the street that's really interested in you, I bet the energy to move would start building.

Keep the mindset that there's something out there for you that you don't know about yet, and watch how your energy changes and because you are in the field, watch how your present changes as well.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Serialized3

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Go work out man, that'll get you off your lazy butt.

Also, if you live in a major metropolitan area, check the local newspaper's life and arts section, because there's ALWAYS stuff going on around town, invite out your buddies or a girl you've been gaming and go do something. Go out and meet new people.
 

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...Well, honestly, i think that maybe, hmmm, crazy idea, GOING OUT?? You need to push yourself, motivate yourself. You see a problem and you fix it, don't let it get worse. I may sound harsh, but its sad to see someone who has the potential to get up and out there, to help themselves, sit around and ask others how to help. A trick, social interaction, act excited, drive ANYWHERE (places you haven't been). Its fun, gives you a story to tell later, and maybe future hook-up points.
 
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