"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I need to get off my lazy, lethargic buttocks.

Dude Bob

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I can't believe myself. I've wasted almost the entire day goofing off surfing the Web.

I know that if I'm ever going to get over my social anxiety problems I have to get out there and do stuff. It's just that I have these "lazy days" where I feel like sitting around and doing nothing.

A question for y'all: What do you do on those days when you just feel totally lazy?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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mrRuckus

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Dude Bob said:
A question for y'all: What do you do on those days when you just feel totally lazy?

lots of hot green tea

that'll perk you up
 

realsmoothie

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Find one thing that you need to get out of the house for. Go drop off that DVD... get some toothpaste... fvck that chick... grab a coffee... wash your car... buy new underwear.

Honestly, social anxiety sucks. I have it, or had it. Took years to get over, and it really only shows up now around women I'm interested in.

But it CAN be reduced, maybe even eliminated. Remember, EVERYONE gets nervous in social circles somewhat.:up:
 
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People feel that way when they "don't see any rewards for getting up."

So you've been reading this site all day, it really does not matter. You don't think that there's any women out there for you right now, if I told you there was a hot girl waiting at the Arby's for you down the street that's really interested in you, I bet the energy to move would start building.

Keep the mindset that there's something out there for you that you don't know about yet, and watch how your energy changes and because you are in the field, watch how your present changes as well.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Serialized3

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Go work out man, that'll get you off your lazy butt.

Also, if you live in a major metropolitan area, check the local newspaper's life and arts section, because there's ALWAYS stuff going on around town, invite out your buddies or a girl you've been gaming and go do something. Go out and meet new people.
 

Rocko

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...Well, honestly, i think that maybe, hmmm, crazy idea, GOING OUT?? You need to push yourself, motivate yourself. You see a problem and you fix it, don't let it get worse. I may sound harsh, but its sad to see someone who has the potential to get up and out there, to help themselves, sit around and ask others how to help. A trick, social interaction, act excited, drive ANYWHERE (places you haven't been). Its fun, gives you a story to tell later, and maybe future hook-up points.
 
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