"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I need to get off my lazy, lethargic buttocks.

Dude Bob

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I can't believe myself. I've wasted almost the entire day goofing off surfing the Web.

I know that if I'm ever going to get over my social anxiety problems I have to get out there and do stuff. It's just that I have these "lazy days" where I feel like sitting around and doing nothing.

A question for y'all: What do you do on those days when you just feel totally lazy?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mrRuckus

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Dude Bob said:
A question for y'all: What do you do on those days when you just feel totally lazy?

lots of hot green tea

that'll perk you up
 

realsmoothie

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Find one thing that you need to get out of the house for. Go drop off that DVD... get some toothpaste... fvck that chick... grab a coffee... wash your car... buy new underwear.

Honestly, social anxiety sucks. I have it, or had it. Took years to get over, and it really only shows up now around women I'm interested in.

But it CAN be reduced, maybe even eliminated. Remember, EVERYONE gets nervous in social circles somewhat.:up:
 
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People feel that way when they "don't see any rewards for getting up."

So you've been reading this site all day, it really does not matter. You don't think that there's any women out there for you right now, if I told you there was a hot girl waiting at the Arby's for you down the street that's really interested in you, I bet the energy to move would start building.

Keep the mindset that there's something out there for you that you don't know about yet, and watch how your energy changes and because you are in the field, watch how your present changes as well.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Serialized3

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Go work out man, that'll get you off your lazy butt.

Also, if you live in a major metropolitan area, check the local newspaper's life and arts section, because there's ALWAYS stuff going on around town, invite out your buddies or a girl you've been gaming and go do something. Go out and meet new people.
 

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...Well, honestly, i think that maybe, hmmm, crazy idea, GOING OUT?? You need to push yourself, motivate yourself. You see a problem and you fix it, don't let it get worse. I may sound harsh, but its sad to see someone who has the potential to get up and out there, to help themselves, sit around and ask others how to help. A trick, social interaction, act excited, drive ANYWHERE (places you haven't been). Its fun, gives you a story to tell later, and maybe future hook-up points.
 
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