yeah well its been awhile. I need some help right now tho. I havent talked to my ex in a long time been doin pretty good about it, this gir ldoesnt deserve my forgiveness in a 100 years. But i feel this urge to email her, and ask her how its going, but i know i shouldnt.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
i need some support
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Why shouldn't you? If you're over her, you could become real close friends with her and it wouldn't even phase you. But then exes are rarely that simple to handle. If you can't treat her as just another person that you know, you shouldn't be trying to communicate with her like just another person you know.
If what she did was so bad that you wouldn't forgive her in a thousand years, why in the world would you want to email her and ask her "how she's doing"??? This doesn't make sense. If it's just an urge, well, urges pass. Do something else to make yourself forget about her.
your right bro it doesnt make a whole lot of sense. But shes first girl i ever loved, and the emotions are lingering and lingering. And i almost have this urge to make her see the success ive been getting so far in my life in a sorta personal revenge almost..Originally posted by italostud
If what she did was so bad that you wouldn't forgive her in a thousand years, why in the world would you want to email her and ask her "how she's doing"??? This doesn't make sense. If it's just an urge, well, urges pass. Do something else to make yourself forget about her.
don`t do it....And i almost have this urge to make her see the success ive been getting so far in my life in a sorta personal revenge almost..
if your personal growth and success has really become so big, then you are not in need to show it to anybody...
not to your ex, not to anybody...
that just would be bragging and bragging is something only losers do...
winners simply cut persons like her out of their lives and live their own wonderful lives...
all the best, joe
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DO NOT give in to that urge. It probably wouldn't even work in the first place. Second, if she sees right through you, and confronts you about contacting her only because you still have feelings for her and she starts pushing all those buttons of yours, you're most definitely gonna feel like a loser. Even if she doesn't push your buttons, it ain't worth it to act like a loser.Originally posted by Swede54
And i almost have this urge to make her see the success ive been getting so far in my life in a sorta personal revenge almost..