yeah well its been awhile. I need some help right now tho. I havent talked to my ex in a long time been doin pretty good about it, this gir ldoesnt deserve my forgiveness in a 100 years. But i feel this urge to email her, and ask her how its going, but i know i shouldnt.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why shouldn't you? If you're over her, you could become real close friends with her and it wouldn't even phase you. But then exes are rarely that simple to handle. If you can't treat her as just another person that you know, you shouldn't be trying to communicate with her like just another person you know.
If what she did was so bad that you wouldn't forgive her in a thousand years, why in the world would you want to email her and ask her "how she's doing"??? This doesn't make sense. If it's just an urge, well, urges pass. Do something else to make yourself forget about her.
your right bro it doesnt make a whole lot of sense. But shes first girl i ever loved, and the emotions are lingering and lingering. And i almost have this urge to make her see the success ive been getting so far in my life in a sorta personal revenge almost..Originally posted by italostud
If what she did was so bad that you wouldn't forgive her in a thousand years, why in the world would you want to email her and ask her "how she's doing"??? This doesn't make sense. If it's just an urge, well, urges pass. Do something else to make yourself forget about her.
don`t do it....And i almost have this urge to make her see the success ive been getting so far in my life in a sorta personal revenge almost..
if your personal growth and success has really become so big, then you are not in need to show it to anybody...
not to your ex, not to anybody...
that just would be bragging and bragging is something only losers do...
winners simply cut persons like her out of their lives and live their own wonderful lives...
all the best, joe
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DO NOT give in to that urge. It probably wouldn't even work in the first place. Second, if she sees right through you, and confronts you about contacting her only because you still have feelings for her and she starts pushing all those buttons of yours, you're most definitely gonna feel like a loser. Even if she doesn't push your buttons, it ain't worth it to act like a loser.Originally posted by Swede54
And i almost have this urge to make her see the success ive been getting so far in my life in a sorta personal revenge almost..