"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I need some simple advice..

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Ok long story short, I've dated this girl like 5 months ago we went out, everything was good, then we became more distant (because of her) last week we agreed to go out and do something and when the day arrived she didnt picked up the phone nor returned my calls I pissed off, then I said enough NEXT, I stopped talking to her like 9 days ago, then today I receive this message that says exactly this: "Hi just reporting up here so then you dont say that we havent seen in years.. greetings!" :confused: this is the second time she does this, what do you guys suggest I should answer to her?.. heck should I even answer her? any tips would be apreciated.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by david_r
what do you guys suggest I should answer to her?.. heck should I even answer her? any tips would be apreciated.
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If it were her intention to get together, or to at least show some respect for your time, she wouldn't have dissapeared the day you were supposed to hang out. Her contacting you later to just pretend everything's fine is just a way to keep you coming back and giving her some casual attention.

You say this happened before. Did you let her know in some form or fashion that wasting your time is not cool? Cause maybe this girl just needs a NON-violent, sad or needy reality check.

Now, I'm actually wondering, does your gut not tell you that something fishy is going on when you arrange a meeting with a girl and she totally dissapears on you?

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Dont reply. Leave it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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