"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I need some simple advice..

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Ok long story short, I've dated this girl like 5 months ago we went out, everything was good, then we became more distant (because of her) last week we agreed to go out and do something and when the day arrived she didnt picked up the phone nor returned my calls I pissed off, then I said enough NEXT, I stopped talking to her like 9 days ago, then today I receive this message that says exactly this: "Hi just reporting up here so then you dont say that we havent seen in years.. greetings!" :confused: this is the second time she does this, what do you guys suggest I should answer to her?.. heck should I even answer her? any tips would be apreciated.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by david_r
what do you guys suggest I should answer to her?.. heck should I even answer her? any tips would be apreciated.
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If it were her intention to get together, or to at least show some respect for your time, she wouldn't have dissapeared the day you were supposed to hang out. Her contacting you later to just pretend everything's fine is just a way to keep you coming back and giving her some casual attention.

You say this happened before. Did you let her know in some form or fashion that wasting your time is not cool? Cause maybe this girl just needs a NON-violent, sad or needy reality check.

Now, I'm actually wondering, does your gut not tell you that something fishy is going on when you arrange a meeting with a girl and she totally dissapears on you?

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Dont reply. Leave it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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