"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I need some nice shoes. How do you select nice shoes?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
MindOverMatter
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I think your main problem is wearing dressy shoes with street clothes (jeans/t shirt). If you're gonna dress with class, you either do it properly or don't do it at all man.
http://www.eccousa.com/shoes/mens/dress/62/product-list.aspx
MindOverMatter
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Yeah but that doesn't mean people who don't have a bad taste.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Panda 2000
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Ragin_Asian
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Heres one that catches my eye but havent tried it on yet
http://www.juliusmarlow.com.au/Shoes/Work/
Its the oslo one that I'm checking out tho
Snatchmaster
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Also, you need more than one pair. Wearing the same pair of shoes everyday wears them out faster. I rotate between five pairs, all different styles. Some of these shoes I have had for years.
For you first pair, I recommend you get yourself simple black penny loafers - they are the sneakers of the dress shoe, look nice and not too fancy.
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.jameyhoward.com/images/news/news_dunkiron.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.jameyhoward.com/news/fullstory.php%3Fid%3D7&h=225&w=300&sz=14&tbnid=u7ItX83iz-0J:&tbnh=83&tbnw=111&start=92&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dnike%2Bhi%26start%3D80%26hl%3Den%26lr%3D%26c2coff%3D1%26safe%3Doff%26sa%3DN
I get compliments on them all the time from people, especially girls. I would recommend them, and they come in tons of different colours.
Just becuase the shoes got neon green and pink colors doesnt make it a stylish shoe to wear. The urban style (lugs and all that ****) is way overpriced and the quality is **** (i have a pair myself) ..
if you are going normal nike or adidas, get something clean, simple colors (white with stripes is used a lot but it is ok) dont wear basketball shoes if you are not going to play basketball in them..generally they will be less comfortable (especially when driving)
Go here..
look at critics, those are gvery stylish, i get a lot of compliments.. the one's i also got are critics made out of different leather ..they are blue with darker yellow stripes, look hella good when i go clubbing, match all the denim out there.
good luck, and please dont buy ugly shoes.
http://shop.skechers.com/shop/men/shoes/casuals/index.jskx"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Road Demon
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Hey I get compliments on my shoes on regular basis...
No white shoes or running sneakers, thats a big no-no, maybe ok for High school.
I agree to get some some 'casual hip bowling shoes' (less than $100) I agree with going with something from Diesel Wish, Kenneth Cole Reaction, or even something like a Timberland Lexington. Cole Haan more like $130. Don't worry about paying too much, but get 2-3 pairs to rotate them, 2 black and 1 brown is good. Even some of those skechers are ok, but they are a bit cheaper.
Pair that with some nice faded jeans (kenneth cole, DKNY, Seven, etc), good $50-100 belt, a nice fitted T-shirt (no logos, $25-50) and the nicest watch you can afford (I sport a Breitling). You will be money.
If you have the cash, invest in nice pair of black dress shoes ~300ish (allen edmonds, ferragamo, gucci, etc). Don't get cheap with these, as you will have them for years...
Invest in good quality stuff, better to buy one $75 belt than 4 $15 belts. Even if you get one piece at a time, remember Quality over quantity.