"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I need some don juan advice

That_Guy49

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Like before my school year ended, this girl I liked told me that she wanted me to meet her sister because I talked to her on AIM once, and her sister is coming home for a month or something...

I told her I'd call her and we'll hang out.

This was about 2 weeks ago and I called her last saturday, but I was drunk and she was in a cheer camp in Dallas, and I asked her when a good time for me to call would be and she said to call her whenever I wanted.

Well I want to set something up, and I'm gonna be out of town next week for like 3 weeks and I was wondering...would it be alright if I called her and told her I wanted to set something up like 3-4 weeks from now?

She might actually think I'm not really interested or something because I told her we would hang out before I left town, but I forgot to call her until recently for some reason. f*ck it. I'm an AFC and need some help..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Caveman

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You FORGOT to call her??

You are not AFC my friend. :D

Anyways, don't worry about when to call her. If it is a few weeks from now.. so what? She is not the most important thing in your life and she'll quickly realize this. If she loses interest, because she won't see you for a couple of weeks, there WAS no interest.
 

Cloud-uk

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Lol, yeah, I doubt she'll lose interest in you. Very much so doubt.

For an AFC you sure seem to have got over the "my life revolves arround getting girls" hurdle- and congratulations!

Sure, set the date up. You do what you want to do, so tell her to come see you whenever you want!
 

That_Guy49

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I'm gonna call her and tell to meet me for breakfast at Denny's and I'm gonna be there and it's up to her if she wants to show up and join me. If not, I'll still be at Denny's eating away on some good ol eatin. One thing a girl now a days probably won't satisfy me with, a good meal.
 
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