"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I need some direction advice here gentlemen!

frivolousz21

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I think i know...


we have been together for abotu 3 weeks.


but we were friends for nearly 2 yrs before that.

thats why I said being friends first can help..I know her and know her tendencies and habits.

its a nice thing to have in such a short relationship thus far.

but this women is a potential canidate for me.

she is a:

virgin
she is funny as hell( a lot like me)
cute
good hearted
with morals and values from her religious beggenings.

lets hope ole friv here doenst FYCK UP THIS GOOD WOMEN



that was from a diff post.



I was friends with a women for 1 yr 8 months.....after flirting and talking forever...we are now going on our 4th week of our AMAZING RELATIONSHIP.

she knows how I feel about her and vice versa..we talk bout this stuff..we talk about everything.

I dont want to come off as needy and I dont not yet.


can u be her friend, lover, and all that..and still be a DJ? is this just about respect and love.

she told me she this great respect for me?

does that seal my DJ status...even with seeing her 3 or 4 days a week...and 30 min to 2 hour phone calls?


advice....only serious advice please!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Freeman

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
I think i know...


we have been together for abotu 3 weeks.


but we were friends for nearly 2 yrs before that.

thats why I said being friends first can help..I know her and know her tendencies and habits.

its a nice thing to have in such a short relationship thus far.

but this women is a potential canidate for me.

she is a:

virgin
she is funny as hell( a lot like me)
cute
good hearted
with morals and values from her religious beggenings.

lets hope ole friv here doenst FYCK UP THIS GOOD WOMEN



that was from a diff post.



I was friends with a women for 1 yr 8 months.....after flirting and talking forever...we are now going on our 4th week of our AMAZING RELATIONSHIP.

she knows how I feel about her and vice versa..we talk bout this stuff..we talk about everything.

I dont want to come off as needy and I dont not yet.


can u be her friend, lover, and all that..and still be a DJ? is this just about respect and love.

she told me she this great respect for me?

does that seal my DJ status...even with seeing her 3 or 4 days a week...and 30 min to 2 hour phone calls?


advice....only serious advice please!

Nothing is gained without risk.. You are going to have to accept the fact that you may have your heart broken..
 

frivolousz21

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Freeman-

I believe you are right.

the fact is I suppose she is taking the same risk. :)

but being a anylitical guy I know how damaging the risk wil be.

oh well...I strap up my boots and if I do fall.I will be back on my horse..hopefully this one I dont fall :)
 

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Interesting...

What indeed is a DJ?

Is there a definition? No seriously is there!?

If the answer is YES... i have never seen such a definition... it is most likely never going to suit everyone's persona

The answer is most likely NO! There is no definition of what a DJ is and that being said it is up to you Friv to make up your own definition.

IF being a DJ to you is what you posted, then so be it, you are a DJ. However if you believe it is not... then you are not a DJ and you are lying to yourself.

But in the end, DJ is just a title... you make up the myth yourself and live it.

Godspeed
-Nightspark


P.S buddy, avoid the analysing :up:
 

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does that seal my DJ status...

Will it make you feel better if people say it does?

with 1000 posts, you should know that you define who you are.

The question should be, have you given in to this woman? have you lost your independence? are you no longer a man? a you no longer being the DJ?

Only you can answer these questions.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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frivolousz21

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thanks Newman your right...

I know what i think a DJ is....and the standerd I hold myself too.

and what ive question is am I compromising the integridy of the standerd that I set forth for myself in this relationship.

and that is somethign I can only answer.


and yes im gonna avoid the analyzing..:)

thanks
 

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Originally posted by Nightspark
Is there a definition? No seriously is there!?
If there is a definition (and lets face it, the term has been abused beyond recognition), I think it lies in being as good a 'you' as you can be. All the rest is supposed to follow.

Even if it's not that, that's what I'm after.
 
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