"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I need serious help and I have been trying but any advice please?

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Ok it started last year with this girl I broke up with my gf at the time I wasn't happy and I met this girl through a buddy and she seemed to really like me and stuff and she was flirting etc.. and then she said was kinda seeing someone I didn't think anything of it. Then like when we would hangout she would act weird, make weird faces were lying blowing me off etc.. things like that and like it got to my head for some reason and I was asking her why she did this stuff she was like making excuses and lying and I was just being nice and stuff and she was just acting weird I didn't understand put pictures on instagram and stuff and then I just kinda flipped because the games kinda got to me would keep being weird like I call her she would hang up and I would call back she would ignore me then I said wanted to take you out and stuff and said don't you want to be with me shes like im not in a place to say that right now I broke up with bf (she really didn't was hanging out with them n stuff) and I got really pissed off and went off on her like what do you want why you doing this ****. It kinda is what brought me to here but and going out with wingmen trying to figure out this women deal and I tried talking to her again she said she didn't want to be with me and I got real upset at her and the guy I was buddies with said played games and went off on them called them names n **** and guy was lying to me saying oh she was just being real nice to you and I talked **** on him and went off on him and he wanted me to fight him called me coward and stuff. Now I am trying to talk to different women I add women on face book and message them and my friends all find out about Lauren Reuben sitation and they said that I need help and stuff and saying I need to not harass women or go off on them like that call them names. And when I am trying to msg new women they block me and my friend wants to have serious talk with me girl was on FB put who the hell is Master Paul this creep is a blockin. So I need help howcan you talk to girls add them and they think your a creep and why am I so upset about this girl and now hating women?

PLEASE HELP I WENT THRU MAJOR DEPRESSION SAW THERAPIST I HAD HUGE ANXIETY AND STUFF I HAD TO GO HOSPITAL ETC.... APPRECIATE IT
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A therapist and an English translator.
 

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thelonewolflegend said:
Ok it started last year with this girl I broke up with my gf at the time I wasn't happy and I met this girl through a buddy and she seemed to really like me and stuff and she was flirting etc.. and then she said was kinda seeing someone I didn't think anything of it.

Two words: Next her
Then like when we would hangout she would act weird, make weird faces were lying blowing me off etc.. things like that and like it got to my head for some reason and I was asking her why she did this stuff she was like making excuses and lying and I was just being nice and stuff and she was just acting weird I didn't understand put pictures on instagram and stuff and then I just kinda flipped because the games kinda got to me would keep being weird like

I call her she would hang up and I would call back she would ignore me then I said wanted to take you out and stuff and said don't you want to be with me shes like im not in a place to say that right now I broke up with bf (she really didn't was hanging out with them n stuff)

for your own good, stop dealing with this girl...leave her alone.

When you said to her "don't you want to be with me?"

That's foul dude, never ask question like that because you'll come up as needy and begging her to be with you...which sucks for a man like us




and I got really pissed off and went off on her like what do you want why you doing this ****.

Don't ask her why, just WALK AWAY and save your dignity as a man

It kinda is what brought me to here but and going out with wingmen trying to figure out this women deal and I tried talking to her again she said she didn't want to be with me

Dude, walk away from her...walk..walk..WALK..AWAYYYYY
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I call her, and she would hang up

and I would call back she would ignore me

then I said I wanted to take you out...don't you want to be with me?


After someone hangs up on you, just go ahead and assume that they don't want to talk to you. Pressing the point only makes it painful for everyone involved: you, her, and every guy who reads that part I just quoted above and has been there himself.
 
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