"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I need more energy
- Thread starter Ricky
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Instead of a coffee ora chocolate bar... one of the best things you can have is a piece of fruit.
Next time before training try having a PEAR and a handful of JELLY BEANS... you wont be dissapointed.
Cheers
il_duce
Master Don Juan
This is something which I realized about a month or so ago.
I had the same problem as you. I worked out 3-4 times a week, ate healthy, got 8 hours of sleep a night, drank lots of water, ate fruit, etc...
It didn't help.
Recently at work, I started to buy these 25 cent Cafe Mocha's from the machine. They are GOOD.
The caffeine changed me. It made me more talkative. It made me more confident. I was C+F... mentally alert... was having fun, and being one of those outgoing, talkative fun guys that everyone loves.
Like it said, it changed me. People would start to see me differently. People started to like me. I made friends. I was happy.
HOWEVER, about two hours later... the result? You get tired and depressed.
What did I do? I had another one. 25 cents, that's nothing.
I'd end up drinking 3 Cafe Mocha's a day. The only other side effect that I know of... is that it may disrupt your sleep. Caffeine is also an addictive drug... you'll have to have it every morning if it messes with your sleeping.
My whole goal is to use caffeine as a crutch. It's an experiment, if you will. Maybe if I do this everyday... and continue to act this way... it will help my confidence, make me more comfortable with those people and meeting people... and eventually wear off on me. I might become this person... and it might HELP me.
Any thoughts?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
diablo
Master Don Juan
1-2 gallons of water per day.
Regular exercise.
At least 8 hours of sleep each night.
No carbonated beverages.
I didn't know coffee drinkers had issues. You should be a psychiatrist.
This is something that has worked for me. Try it.
I work at a car dealership... I'm surrounded by 10-20 successful car salesmen a day. I've learned by now the ONLY way to actually keep up with sales and on the ball is drinking coffee. These guys drink THREE starbucks coffee's a day. The big ones. You know how much caffeine THAT is? It helps them.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Too much of it will make you feel like crap. I have a cup every 2 days. Thats ideal for me - usually I'll work the caffine around something stressful though. I'll take a break at work near the end of my shift, have a strong coffee, and crack through the rest of it. Or, as stated already, with a workout.
Avoid too many startchy carbs at lunchtime, too.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.