"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I need more energy
- Thread starter Ricky
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Instead of a coffee ora chocolate bar... one of the best things you can have is a piece of fruit.
Next time before training try having a PEAR and a handful of JELLY BEANS... you wont be dissapointed.
Cheers
il_duce
Master Don Juan
This is something which I realized about a month or so ago.
I had the same problem as you. I worked out 3-4 times a week, ate healthy, got 8 hours of sleep a night, drank lots of water, ate fruit, etc...
It didn't help.
Recently at work, I started to buy these 25 cent Cafe Mocha's from the machine. They are GOOD.
The caffeine changed me. It made me more talkative. It made me more confident. I was C+F... mentally alert... was having fun, and being one of those outgoing, talkative fun guys that everyone loves.
Like it said, it changed me. People would start to see me differently. People started to like me. I made friends. I was happy.
HOWEVER, about two hours later... the result? You get tired and depressed.
What did I do? I had another one. 25 cents, that's nothing.
I'd end up drinking 3 Cafe Mocha's a day. The only other side effect that I know of... is that it may disrupt your sleep. Caffeine is also an addictive drug... you'll have to have it every morning if it messes with your sleeping.
My whole goal is to use caffeine as a crutch. It's an experiment, if you will. Maybe if I do this everyday... and continue to act this way... it will help my confidence, make me more comfortable with those people and meeting people... and eventually wear off on me. I might become this person... and it might HELP me.
Any thoughts?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
diablo
Master Don Juan
1-2 gallons of water per day.
Regular exercise.
At least 8 hours of sleep each night.
No carbonated beverages.
I didn't know coffee drinkers had issues. You should be a psychiatrist.
This is something that has worked for me. Try it.
I work at a car dealership... I'm surrounded by 10-20 successful car salesmen a day. I've learned by now the ONLY way to actually keep up with sales and on the ball is drinking coffee. These guys drink THREE starbucks coffee's a day. The big ones. You know how much caffeine THAT is? It helps them.
DJBen
Master Don Juan
Too much of it will make you feel like crap. I have a cup every 2 days. Thats ideal for me - usually I'll work the caffine around something stressful though. I'll take a break at work near the end of my shift, have a strong coffee, and crack through the rest of it. Or, as stated already, with a workout.
Avoid too many startchy carbs at lunchtime, too.
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.