"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I need her back!

toddC

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Okay, first off let me say this is a SLIGHT case of oneitis...Nothign tooo big but I'll explain completely..

For those who didn't see my previous posts on this girl, I'll take it from the top because I have nothing better to do tonight :).

Okay, it all started when my good friend's girlfriend decided to hook me up with one o fher friends. I was skeptical at first because I really don't like being setup but hey w/e I wanted ass. So first night we hung out we made out for a few hours yada yada yada..

Then winter break started. It started on a thursday and I was leaving friday. So thursday night we decided to hang out and I got the goodbye **** yada yada make out session.

Then while I was gone I made the mistake of texting her...which is when i first realized her losing the interest in me. Then I found out she got with some other dude while I was gone (whcih is ok because we weren't exclusive or anything). So she came clean to me and told me about it so I was cool with it.

Then I came back the day of new years eve. She IMed me online almost instantly and was like do i get a 12 oclock kiss. I was like only if u deserve it ;)...it ended up she did.

Then this is when I started realizing she was really starting to lose interst. She started bringin her friends when we hung and gave me liek 2 word answeres online...overall i could just pretty much tell.

So I pretty much started ignoring her which worked beautifully...she came crawling back and we made out for our final time (up to this point) 2 weekends ago.

Now last weekend we were supposed to hang but she couldnt go to my friends beach house so she went to some kids party where she got with yet another dude. Now this really didn't tick me off because i can honestly say i don't have that much interest in her anymore anyways...

Now this is why I NEED HER TO COME BACK TO ME:

I'm a VERY stubburn person when it comes to girls. If your not exactly what I'm looking for I leave you right there...kinda a bad trait but w/e...I need this girl to start wanting me so bad so that I can just turn her down so she feels like ****....How can I do this? I started ignoring her again this week at school. In fact today I didn't say 1 word to her at all. I usually see her at her locker once a day but I ignored her and she ended up like kinda punchin me when she was walkin away to get my attention...but yea how can i regain her interst and fast!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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no, i have to lol. I mean I know shes still some what interested as she always trys to talk to me inschool but i kinda blow her off most of the time. But I just want her to BEG for me to come back.
 

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why are you devoting yourself to making somebody else unhappy?

you want to get a lot of women? build your reputation up as being a good, confident guy in general. making some random (albeit b!tchy) girl cry is not the way to do this. you know, you'll be a lot happier in life if you stop worrying about stupid crap that is just slowing you down.

focus that energy on something positive. this is just pathetic.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Okay, well obviously I'm working on other girls too...However I'm not going to lie I sitll like this chick. So at first I want her back to see where it goes and if it doesn't work out I then want to be th eone to end it.
 
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