"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I need help when facing my dater

ealltech

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I need some advice on how I should proceed with a current situation between me and a guy I met on Passfeed. We met over Halloween weekend. He lives in LA, me in SEA. He facetime/calls me every single day for the last 3 weeks, says he would like to know me better and that we have chemistry. We hit it off. Yes, we’ve already hooked up.

I had made plans to go to Lake Tahoe for NYE with another college friend of mine and the original plan was to meet up with my crush (since he would be there as well). That plan fell through and my friend is no longer going. I told my crush this last week and he said that’s ok, you can stay with me for a few days & that I had nothing to worry about. He made it sound that he did not want me to make other plans for NYE.

I want to buy my flight this week on black Friday. I talked to him last night about what dates should I fly in & reminded him I would be staying with him. He got kind of weird and said “well don’t put all of this on me, I won’t be able to hang out with you the whole entire time, I do have to work while im there. I don’t know the plan in full detail and that’s the truth.” (he is working some events happening for a couple days) my reply “well my biggest fear is you’ll drop the ball on me and I won’t see you at all” him “That couldn’t possibly happen I’ll be there for 5 days” me “I just need to 100% know that I have somewhere to sleep and put my bags” & after I said that I got kind of a not certain “sure”. Now I’m panicked since he was so for me being there to being kind of elusive. I think I may suggest I visit for 2 nights instead of 4 so it takes some of the pressure off but on the other hand Ive been thinking of just saying I decided to cancel the trip all together.

Help!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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thatfeel

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Don't waste your time or money on long distance. Man or woman. You're too valuable to not be pursuing easier, more practical locals.

I can tell you if I had even an inkling that someone I was supposed to travel for to see was being a bit suspect, flakey, and/or wishy washy I wouldn't bother.
 
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