ok. so last night at the club i pulled a really really nice girl. not your average slut club chick. she was really reserved , didnt dance all wild and was generally really sweet. from the get go i knew she was checking me out and i approached her and we started dancing all night. her older sister was there and she was telling me that her younger sister ( who i was dancing with ) thought i was really cute and wanted to dance with me all as soon as she seen me. she was holding my hand, hugging me, and even kissed me. NOW THIS IS WHERE I NEED YOUR HELP!. I THINK I FVKD UP. I THINK I JUST SHOWED HER TOO MUCH ATTENTION BECAUSE AFTER I GOT HER NUMBER, SHE STARTED SATING SHE WAS TIRED AND WANTED TO GO HOME, NO MORE PHYSICAL TOUCHING OR HUGGING OR ANYTHING. BY THE TIME THE NIGHT ENDED WHEN I GAVE HER A HUG, SHE DIDNT EVEN HUG ME BACK AND SHE JUST LOOKED REALLY TIRED. ok guys thats the story. i know i shouldnt have showed her THAT much attention, but my question is, is it still rescuable? should i call her still? or should i just let it go. AND ALSO I NEED ADVICE, WHEN SHOUD I CALL AND HER AND NEXT TIME THIS HAPPENS AT THE CLUB, HOW MUCH ATTENTION DO I SHOW AND HER AND WHEN DO I STOP SHOWING HER ATTENTION. THANK U SO MUCH!!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I Need Help. Please Give Me Some Advice.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Why do I have the feeling that sknudheat is working for sosuave.com generating some extra traffic?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Joe Stud
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Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Ok lad, here we go: Best method, is to try to "run into her" at the bar again. Now if that is not possible, then wait a week before calling her. Be brief, tell her you are going to be there on such n such nite, and suggest she drop by for drinks & a few laughs. If she leans toward the group thing again (her sis & your friends), it's okay to settle for that. Either way, you know she's attracted to you. So... look good, smell good, head up/stand tall & confident. Be flirtatious with the other girls as well. You want to radiate confidence and not neediness. Talking less is better than being a chatterbox. Always smile, but confidently, not goofy. Like you have a $million dollars secretly hidden in a swiss bank.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Do it lad. Gimme a report in the morning
Kailex
Master Don Juan
Um, more details please?sknudheat said:
What do you mean by "shower her too much attention"? How much time did you spend talking to her? What were you saying? What did you do?
Don't call her. If she looked like she stopped showing interest, she's not going to be interested when you call.
Just bump into her again and be fun, casual, exciting, interesting... all at the same time.
But I can't really give you any advice until you are more specific of what you did. I can't guess wildly.
JohnnyC69
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Sounds to me like you dissipated all of the sexual tension. A good thing to remember when you meet a chick in a club is to do a little bit of push/pull. Be all over her one second, then turn your back on her the next. Tell her how beautiful she is and how hard she makes you...then tell her it would never work out between you, she's too young for you, etc.
Attraction is a great start, but if you want to make her crave you deep down, you need to be building and maintaining sexual tension!
Attraction is a great start, but if you want to make her crave you deep down, you need to be building and maintaining sexual tension!
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
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