ok. so last night at the club i pulled a really really nice girl. not your average slut club chick. she was really reserved , didnt dance all wild and was generally really sweet. from the get go i knew she was checking me out and i approached her and we started dancing all night. her older sister was there and she was telling me that her younger sister ( who i was dancing with ) thought i was really cute and wanted to dance with me all as soon as she seen me. she was holding my hand, hugging me, and even kissed me. NOW THIS IS WHERE I NEED YOUR HELP!. I THINK I FVKD UP. I THINK I JUST SHOWED HER TOO MUCH ATTENTION BECAUSE AFTER I GOT HER NUMBER, SHE STARTED SATING SHE WAS TIRED AND WANTED TO GO HOME, NO MORE PHYSICAL TOUCHING OR HUGGING OR ANYTHING. BY THE TIME THE NIGHT ENDED WHEN I GAVE HER A HUG, SHE DIDNT EVEN HUG ME BACK AND SHE JUST LOOKED REALLY TIRED. ok guys thats the story. i know i shouldnt have showed her THAT much attention, but my question is, is it still rescuable? should i call her still? or should i just let it go. AND ALSO I NEED ADVICE, WHEN SHOUD I CALL AND HER AND NEXT TIME THIS HAPPENS AT THE CLUB, HOW MUCH ATTENTION DO I SHOW AND HER AND WHEN DO I STOP SHOWING HER ATTENTION. THANK U SO MUCH!!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I Need Help. Please Give Me Some Advice.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Joe Stud
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Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
Ok lad, here we go: Best method, is to try to "run into her" at the bar again. Now if that is not possible, then wait a week before calling her. Be brief, tell her you are going to be there on such n such nite, and suggest she drop by for drinks & a few laughs. If she leans toward the group thing again (her sis & your friends), it's okay to settle for that. Either way, you know she's attracted to you. So... look good, smell good, head up/stand tall & confident. Be flirtatious with the other girls as well. You want to radiate confidence and not neediness. Talking less is better than being a chatterbox. Always smile, but confidently, not goofy. Like you have a $million dollars secretly hidden in a swiss bank.
Joe Stud
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Do it lad. Gimme a report in the morning
Kailex
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Um, more details please?sknudheat said:
What do you mean by "shower her too much attention"? How much time did you spend talking to her? What were you saying? What did you do?
Don't call her. If she looked like she stopped showing interest, she's not going to be interested when you call.
Just bump into her again and be fun, casual, exciting, interesting... all at the same time.
But I can't really give you any advice until you are more specific of what you did. I can't guess wildly.
JohnnyC69
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Sounds to me like you dissipated all of the sexual tension. A good thing to remember when you meet a chick in a club is to do a little bit of push/pull. Be all over her one second, then turn your back on her the next. Tell her how beautiful she is and how hard she makes you...then tell her it would never work out between you, she's too young for you, etc.
Attraction is a great start, but if you want to make her crave you deep down, you need to be building and maintaining sexual tension!
Attraction is a great start, but if you want to make her crave you deep down, you need to be building and maintaining sexual tension!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.