SoSuaveDJ123
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So yeah, I've been with this chick for almost exactly 5 years now. We're both 23. I'm not looking to get engaged/married for at least another couple of years, so we are still bf/gf.
For the first 4 years and 6 months of our relationship, everything was for the most part fine. We had this dynamic where she thought the world of me at all times. She treated me like a goddamn king and made it a point to call me the best bf ever, etc etc. We also had this thing where we called each other every single night before bed without fail, and talked and then most of the time fell asleep on the phone together. I know, I know, browsing these forums has shown me how bad that was.
So fast forward to the last 6 months. Her parents moved to another state. She still lives here, but goes there during the holidays. In fact, she's there now and has been since Christmas. During the past 6 months, the following has happened:
1. She doesn't reply to my texts quickly anymore; in fact, she goes hours/ sometimes a whole day without replying
2. Her sex drive is like nonexistent now
3. We BARELY talk on the phone at night anymore
4. We barely see each other anymore. She doesn't make an effort to see me.
Now, mind you, she still tells me the I love you and all that stuff all the time. But being that women are judged by actions and not words, I'm confused here. One night I tried to get to the bottom of her laconic ways, and we got into a fight and she called me "needy" and "too clingy". The next day she apologized, but it rang in my head.
From there on, I browsed these forums and I have tried it all, fellas. I tried competitive anxiety by getting these girls to flirt with me, but all it did was have her become VERY MILDLY annoyed. I went NC for about 4-5 days, and all she did was confidently pursue me until I answered, and when I did, she acted like nothing happened. WTF? She didn't even acknowledge the fact I went NC on her.
I don't know what the **** is going on, but I'm going crazy here. Due to the circumstances of race and religio, I can't quickly go and find another girl. This girl is my first love and I don't know what he **** to do anymore. It's drivinge nuts. I wanna grab her by the shirt and scream at her and ask what the **** is happening, but according to this site that's the LASt thing I should do. But I feel as if going NC and just ignoring her and not smothering her will make her fall out of my grasp even more....
I just want her to be head over heels for me again. I never beta bAckslided, guys. I was always a challenge and was always alpha. Idk what the hell went wrong. Can anyone please give me advice here? Should I go NC again? Grab her by the shirt and say all of this to her?
It's almost like she's an alpha female. It's crazy.
For the first 4 years and 6 months of our relationship, everything was for the most part fine. We had this dynamic where she thought the world of me at all times. She treated me like a goddamn king and made it a point to call me the best bf ever, etc etc. We also had this thing where we called each other every single night before bed without fail, and talked and then most of the time fell asleep on the phone together. I know, I know, browsing these forums has shown me how bad that was.
So fast forward to the last 6 months. Her parents moved to another state. She still lives here, but goes there during the holidays. In fact, she's there now and has been since Christmas. During the past 6 months, the following has happened:
1. She doesn't reply to my texts quickly anymore; in fact, she goes hours/ sometimes a whole day without replying
2. Her sex drive is like nonexistent now
3. We BARELY talk on the phone at night anymore
4. We barely see each other anymore. She doesn't make an effort to see me.
Now, mind you, she still tells me the I love you and all that stuff all the time. But being that women are judged by actions and not words, I'm confused here. One night I tried to get to the bottom of her laconic ways, and we got into a fight and she called me "needy" and "too clingy". The next day she apologized, but it rang in my head.
From there on, I browsed these forums and I have tried it all, fellas. I tried competitive anxiety by getting these girls to flirt with me, but all it did was have her become VERY MILDLY annoyed. I went NC for about 4-5 days, and all she did was confidently pursue me until I answered, and when I did, she acted like nothing happened. WTF? She didn't even acknowledge the fact I went NC on her.
I don't know what the **** is going on, but I'm going crazy here. Due to the circumstances of race and religio, I can't quickly go and find another girl. This girl is my first love and I don't know what he **** to do anymore. It's drivinge nuts. I wanna grab her by the shirt and scream at her and ask what the **** is happening, but according to this site that's the LASt thing I should do. But I feel as if going NC and just ignoring her and not smothering her will make her fall out of my grasp even more....
I just want her to be head over heels for me again. I never beta bAckslided, guys. I was always a challenge and was always alpha. Idk what the hell went wrong. Can anyone please give me advice here? Should I go NC again? Grab her by the shirt and say all of this to her?
It's almost like she's an alpha female. It's crazy.