"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I need help fixing my bad traits and building up good ones

Rint

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I would really appreciate it if you guys helped me destroy my bad traits. I tried one of the self improvement threads and they told me to list my faults so i will and i'd like your guy's advice on how to get rid of them.

Faults/Bad things about Rint:
-People find me annoying cause i talk too much
-My only really good jokes are peverted this is from a friend of mine who told me this
-I'm not confident enough
-I say the wrong thing often without knowing it
-I'm sensative
-I dont know what to say alot
-I have no courage
-I lack people skills
-People think i'm weird

Things i need help improving:
-Humor i want to be funny not just peverted funny
-Being cool
-Being respected by everyone
-Building rapport with people
-Being a man
-Changing my bad rep to a good one

I'd appreciate some threads or advice or maybe a good kick in the ass
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the only trait you listed that can be changed through influence of this thread is the whole talking too much/saying wrong thing and that..

think before you speak..it's simple..don't be so damn impulsive..all inteligent people brainstorm what they will say before they say it..predict the people's reaction before you say it..

the other stuff, you have to do field work..trial and error...no text in this thread will help you with that..may give you some basic guidelines or whatever, but you just have to work at it in the field....
 

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Thanks guys. People say i have a head start cause i'm 15, but there are so many other players who are 15 who will be way better when i become a DJ so thats kinda why i wanna hurry it up.
 

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Hey KillaPeteHog How do you hang with the playas? I know all of them, and i'm friends with them, but i dont know how to become good friends with them and hang out with them. Got any advice?
 

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Don't focus on being just a player. To fix all those problems you just need to improve yourself overall (which will indirectly help you be a player anyways)

Honestly, you've got a long road ahead of you. You're not going to fix all these things overnight.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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