"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i need help figuring out what i want

Dannyrt34

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alright guys, heres a little background to my problem. I've been dating a girl who i consider to be pretty cute, and has the best personality i could ask for.

Anyway, last night on our date, she spilled her guts to me and told me how much she likes me and basically said some really sweet things that make you wanna go "aww". I really like her too.

Now, what's happening is, somehow i got this drop dead gorgeous girl's number today. I think the only reason i got it is because im having feelings for somebody else and i just talked to this new girl as if i didn't care what she thought of me (she works at the restaurant i was eating at). she ended up giving me her number without me even asking for it. Now this girl is stunningly beautiful, and i don't know if i have the willpower to stay loyal to the sweet girl. I don't know what I want.

I feel like I'd be doing something wrong if i chose the slightly better looking one, because i feel like i'd be making this decision purely on looks, and I think I'd have a guilt trip about it.

The reason this decision is so tough, is because i just asked the sweet girl to be my gf 2 days ago. and she's like one of the nicest girls i ever met and i'd feel horrible to hurt her. Somebody talk some sense into me and give me insight. by the way, I am a relationship person, but i do have standards looks wise, both girls meet my standards, just one is way hotter.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Oh man... You're seriously going to learn a lesson from this.... I would stay with the sweet girl.... unless shes ugly... I mean... All you did was get a phone number, it doesnt mean anything, you're all ready acting as if the other girl wants to be your girl friend and your trying to decide between the two.

So why dont you go out with the other one while being with the sweet one? I wouldnt get my hopes up with the drop dead gorgeos girl.. she prolly just wants attention or something new in her life to play around with.
 

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DonDan said:
Oh man... You're seriously going to learn a lesson from this.... I would stay with the sweet girl.... unless shes ugly... I mean... All you did was get a phone number, it doesnt mean anything, you're all ready acting as if the other girl wants to be your girl friend and your trying to decide between the two.

So why dont you go out with the other one while being with the sweet one? I wouldnt get my hopes up with the drop dead gorgeos girl.. she prolly just wants attention or something new in her life to play around with.
no, because i called her and she asked what i was doing. I said "sitting here like a loser while all my friends are out with their girls, how about you greaseball?". (I called her greaseball cause she works at a pizza place). She laughed and said she can be my girlfriend when that happens again. dam. then i teased her and said I'm not that easy of a catch. I wish i could control myself.

And no the other girl is also good looking, she also meets my standards. It's just this other one is like WOW.
 

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cute kills hot any day unless your looking for a short term bang. i made the mistake of dumping the cutest chick back in grade 10 for a HB and this hot chick was all games, her jokes sucked and she whined about everything. the cute chick had a line up of guys asking her out cause she was really something. dam that sucked
 
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