"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I need an ice-breaker

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Ive always thought my ex's friend was really hot... i broke up with her so why not?
only thing is ive never met or talked to her in my life, the only access i have to her is through myspace... i need a way to contact her without coming off like a stalker.

i have a few possibilities im working with:
-one of my best friends used to work with her at a department store in high school (4-5 years ago), i shopped there a couple of times
- they don't really talk BUT my friend DOES have her on his friend list

i'm thinking of sending her a message saying "hey i saw you on my friends list, did you ever work at XYZ store??? because i could have sworn i saw you there back in high school."

Does that sound to stalker-ish? Any better ideas? I just need a way in, once i break the ice the rest is cake.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Boo. "Run into her" in person. Make an impression.
 
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Alkali said:
Boo. "Run into her" in person. Make an impression.
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LOL, i would if i had any clue where she was. My only way to her is through myspace.
 
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Your problem is that you're trying not to come off as a stalker when you actually kind of resemble one (in a limited sense of course.) Just be direct and hope it doesn't scare her off. "I thought you were cute then and I think you're cute now. Want to get together sometime?"

Worst case scenario, you get turned down and move on with your life.
 
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"What's your favorite dinosaur? I like triceratops. Let's have sex."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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