"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I need an ice-breaker

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Ive always thought my ex's friend was really hot... i broke up with her so why not?
only thing is ive never met or talked to her in my life, the only access i have to her is through myspace... i need a way to contact her without coming off like a stalker.

i have a few possibilities im working with:
-one of my best friends used to work with her at a department store in high school (4-5 years ago), i shopped there a couple of times
- they don't really talk BUT my friend DOES have her on his friend list

i'm thinking of sending her a message saying "hey i saw you on my friends list, did you ever work at XYZ store??? because i could have sworn i saw you there back in high school."

Does that sound to stalker-ish? Any better ideas? I just need a way in, once i break the ice the rest is cake.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Boo. "Run into her" in person. Make an impression.
 
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Alkali said:
Boo. "Run into her" in person. Make an impression.
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LOL, i would if i had any clue where she was. My only way to her is through myspace.
 
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Your problem is that you're trying not to come off as a stalker when you actually kind of resemble one (in a limited sense of course.) Just be direct and hope it doesn't scare her off. "I thought you were cute then and I think you're cute now. Want to get together sometime?"

Worst case scenario, you get turned down and move on with your life.
 
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"What's your favorite dinosaur? I like triceratops. Let's have sex."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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