"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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we all eat food

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Right now, life is pretty boring...just going to school and thats it...during the week i pretty much do nothin but school work and occasionally hang out with a friend...Either that or im just bored at of my mind, just on the computer or doin nothin. Im at a community college and have met some chill people, but very few that i actually hang out a lot with. Antoher thing is I have no car, and no money... My parents dont trust me to drive anymore sinc i already got into an accident and they are worried. Im not really depressed because i know im going to a 4 year school next year...but right now im just so bored during the week, all the people i hang out with on the weekends are all high school kids and i still ahve a good time. I dont have a passion really, they always change, i think im gonna start working out...but i dont have a car so i cant go anywhere. Before i wanna start seriously going after girls again...I wanna stop spending my day after school doing nothing.

So basically what im saying is...what do you all do in your free time?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why don't you have Goals??
Why don't you have Hobbies?
Why don't you have any interests?
Whay aren't you working on improving yourself, becoming more mature and developing your masculinity?
 
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we all eat food

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I dont know why i dont have any interests...i'm really a big music buff, but im not the most taletned musician...idk i live my life pretty vicariously
 
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music is a great way to connect with people. you have to change your mindset first though.

pick up your instrument, learn some of your favorite pieces, work on your technique, and look for other people to jam with. you'll definitely start getting a great social circle through music
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well, right now I'm not up to a whole lot... my leg is all busted up (I fell off a roof and into a large pile of broken glass... atleast I didn't break it, though).

Anyways, when I was about your age I would ride my freakin' bicycle to the bar and meet women. It was amazing to me how women would respond to my attitude. I soon realised that because I couldn't 'pick them up' due to the fact that I had a bicycle chained to the phone booth outside (they didn't have a proper place to chain a bicycle, fancy that), I was surprisingly quite successful at it. I would tease the ladies, I would be flirting with them the whole time and I knew that I coudn't possibly take even one of them home that night... I was playful, I was funny and I never once mentioned sex verbally. This resulted in more telephone numbers than I knew what to do with because I didn't really give a sh!t about getting laid because I thought I couldn't.

So why don't you try actually turning off the computer/television/playstation and start doing some push-ups, or something... hell, take a walk around the block if you can't drive. I know you can't exactly go to the bar because of your age (unless your english, you know... from England) but you can still get out and have some fun on foot. Human beings have been walking upright and proud of themselves for thousands of years... it's pretty much how we got the title "Homo Sapiens" in the first place.

Remember, flashy cars and business suits don't add inches to your d!ck... now get out there and start using what you've got to get what you want and don't make anymore excuses!
 
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Aboleo said:
Well, right now I'm not up to a whole lot... my leg is all busted up (I fell off a roof and into a large pile of broken glass... atleast I didn't break it, though).

Anyways, when I was about your age I would ride my freakin' bicycle to the bar and meet women. It was amazing to me how women would respond to my attitude. I soon realised that because I couldn't 'pick them up' due to the fact that I had a bicycle chained to the phone booth outside (they didn't have a proper place to chain a bicycle, fancy that), I was surprisingly quite successful at it. I would tease the ladies, I would be flirting with them the whole time and I knew that I coudn't possibly take even one of them home that night... I was playful, I was funny and I never once mentioned sex verbally. This resulted in more telephone numbers than I knew what to do with because I didn't really give a sh!t about getting laid because I thought I couldn't.

So why don't you try actually turning off the computer/television/playstation and start doing some push-ups, or something... hell, take a walk around the block if you can't drive. I know you can't exactly go to the bar because of your age (unless your english, you know... from England) but you can still get out and have some fun on foot. Human beings have been walking upright and proud of themselves for thousands of years... it's pretty much how we got the title "Homo Sapiens" in the first place.

Remember, flashy cars and business suits don't add inches to your d!ck... now get out there and start using what you've got to get what you want and don't make anymore excuses!
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Great post!

Lol, at the bike thing, that was funny to picture.

Sorry bout that leg!
 
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You have no money, why not get a part time job doing something fun? Or at least do some volunteer work..

Your school doesn't have a gym?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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we all eat food said:
I dont know why i dont have any interests....idk i live my life pretty vicariously
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Interceptor and Aboleo have answered your questions excellently. Get a job, get some new friends, get a gym membership, get a new car, go volunteer, learn a new language, etc, etc, etc. No one is going to give you keys to a new car or give you a body like Arnold without you working for it. A pill to solve all your boredom problems may work in the Matrix, but not in real life.

Someone on here said the definition of an insane man was doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I couldn't agree more.
 
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get a job, and if you love music learn an instrument man. im in my second year at college and i just started playing this year, but ive been playing religiously with huge discipline and im already better than most of my friends. do some thinking, find out what you truly want, and just ****in go for it man
 
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