"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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we all eat food

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Right now, life is pretty boring...just going to school and thats it...during the week i pretty much do nothin but school work and occasionally hang out with a friend...Either that or im just bored at of my mind, just on the computer or doin nothin. Im at a community college and have met some chill people, but very few that i actually hang out a lot with. Antoher thing is I have no car, and no money... My parents dont trust me to drive anymore sinc i already got into an accident and they are worried. Im not really depressed because i know im going to a 4 year school next year...but right now im just so bored during the week, all the people i hang out with on the weekends are all high school kids and i still ahve a good time. I dont have a passion really, they always change, i think im gonna start working out...but i dont have a car so i cant go anywhere. Before i wanna start seriously going after girls again...I wanna stop spending my day after school doing nothing.

So basically what im saying is...what do you all do in your free time?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interceptor

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Why don't you have Goals??
Why don't you have Hobbies?
Why don't you have any interests?
Whay aren't you working on improving yourself, becoming more mature and developing your masculinity?
 
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we all eat food

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I dont know why i dont have any interests...i'm really a big music buff, but im not the most taletned musician...idk i live my life pretty vicariously
 
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music is a great way to connect with people. you have to change your mindset first though.

pick up your instrument, learn some of your favorite pieces, work on your technique, and look for other people to jam with. you'll definitely start getting a great social circle through music
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well, right now I'm not up to a whole lot... my leg is all busted up (I fell off a roof and into a large pile of broken glass... atleast I didn't break it, though).

Anyways, when I was about your age I would ride my freakin' bicycle to the bar and meet women. It was amazing to me how women would respond to my attitude. I soon realised that because I couldn't 'pick them up' due to the fact that I had a bicycle chained to the phone booth outside (they didn't have a proper place to chain a bicycle, fancy that), I was surprisingly quite successful at it. I would tease the ladies, I would be flirting with them the whole time and I knew that I coudn't possibly take even one of them home that night... I was playful, I was funny and I never once mentioned sex verbally. This resulted in more telephone numbers than I knew what to do with because I didn't really give a sh!t about getting laid because I thought I couldn't.

So why don't you try actually turning off the computer/television/playstation and start doing some push-ups, or something... hell, take a walk around the block if you can't drive. I know you can't exactly go to the bar because of your age (unless your english, you know... from England) but you can still get out and have some fun on foot. Human beings have been walking upright and proud of themselves for thousands of years... it's pretty much how we got the title "Homo Sapiens" in the first place.

Remember, flashy cars and business suits don't add inches to your d!ck... now get out there and start using what you've got to get what you want and don't make anymore excuses!
 
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Aboleo said:
Well, right now I'm not up to a whole lot... my leg is all busted up (I fell off a roof and into a large pile of broken glass... atleast I didn't break it, though).

Anyways, when I was about your age I would ride my freakin' bicycle to the bar and meet women. It was amazing to me how women would respond to my attitude. I soon realised that because I couldn't 'pick them up' due to the fact that I had a bicycle chained to the phone booth outside (they didn't have a proper place to chain a bicycle, fancy that), I was surprisingly quite successful at it. I would tease the ladies, I would be flirting with them the whole time and I knew that I coudn't possibly take even one of them home that night... I was playful, I was funny and I never once mentioned sex verbally. This resulted in more telephone numbers than I knew what to do with because I didn't really give a sh!t about getting laid because I thought I couldn't.

So why don't you try actually turning off the computer/television/playstation and start doing some push-ups, or something... hell, take a walk around the block if you can't drive. I know you can't exactly go to the bar because of your age (unless your english, you know... from England) but you can still get out and have some fun on foot. Human beings have been walking upright and proud of themselves for thousands of years... it's pretty much how we got the title "Homo Sapiens" in the first place.

Remember, flashy cars and business suits don't add inches to your d!ck... now get out there and start using what you've got to get what you want and don't make anymore excuses!
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Great post!

Lol, at the bike thing, that was funny to picture.

Sorry bout that leg!
 
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You have no money, why not get a part time job doing something fun? Or at least do some volunteer work..

Your school doesn't have a gym?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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we all eat food said:
I dont know why i dont have any interests....idk i live my life pretty vicariously
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Interceptor and Aboleo have answered your questions excellently. Get a job, get some new friends, get a gym membership, get a new car, go volunteer, learn a new language, etc, etc, etc. No one is going to give you keys to a new car or give you a body like Arnold without you working for it. A pill to solve all your boredom problems may work in the Matrix, but not in real life.

Someone on here said the definition of an insane man was doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I couldn't agree more.
 
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get a job, and if you love music learn an instrument man. im in my second year at college and i just started playing this year, but ive been playing religiously with huge discipline and im already better than most of my friends. do some thinking, find out what you truly want, and just ****in go for it man
 
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