DonGorgon said:ummm ok then..
it impresses them, trust me... u should try it
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
DonGorgon said:ummm ok then..
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LOL... My virility is unparalleld..JackPrescott said:2 hump chump.
Nah women look at me and know I am a sexual beast.. I could say i celibate but not a virgin.sav said:it impresses them, trust me... u should try it
Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...JackPrescott said:I personally feel that cunnilingus and intercourse are on the same level, as far as sexuality. In fact, I consider cunnilingus or fellatio even more intimate. The vagina is meant for a penis. The mouth is meant for food, not tongues.
I dont think he understands women of your ilk...LOLSunnyD said:Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
SunnyD said:Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...
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I'm glad you are ok, health wise. Just don't do that kind of thing again, or be prepared for when something shrivels up, you pee fire or your lady bits fall off. It's waaaay too risky, kid.SunnyD said:Hooked up with my ex again a couple weeks ago because we were getting along great and maybe going to get back together. He told me he had ended things with the girl he was sleeping with after he and I broke up. So we hung out, things happened...we've all been there. (background: he and I together over a year, not really comitted because he was a comittmentphobe..which is why it all really ended and we've been split for the last 6 months)
Anyway, so we finally hooked up again and I had a feeling (trust your intuition always!) and got it out of him (by saying I'd ask her myself if he didnt tell me) that he was infact still sleeping with her, and I'm pretty sure he did us both in the same day! ****in scum! (you'll all say good for him..but whatever, it's nasty.)
Anyway, the question is this... I met her once and actually liked her (before I knew she was sleeping with my ex...they're not dating though, have just been sleeping together.) And I KNOW she doesnt know about me being back in the picture for that brief period of time...but I sure bet she'd love to know. I want to tell her, not to hurt her or spite him or get him back..but because she is the one who told me about he and her the first time when he lied to me about it. (we were all out in a mutual group, she thought something was still going on with me and ex so she asked, then told me she was with him.)
So anyway, I know I dont owe this girl anything...and I know he wasnt dating either of us but he was lying to us both about not being with anyone else, and not using condoms!!!! (my fault and her fault, I KNOW!!! Yes I have gone to get checked and Im fine and wont do that again.)
He used all the typical lines like "if I didnt care about you I wouldnt talk to you everyday" and "I have fun with you and I have fun with her, Im torn." Also begged and pleaded to stay friends because he didnt want it to end up this way and didnt mean to hurt me. Pfft. whatever.
My friends have said "no, dont tell her it will hurt her and its just to spite him, she wont believe you anyway and you will be the "psycho." I do have texts and msn convos for proof if she wanted...
But what do you guys think..tell or let it go? (I have cut all ties with him and we no longer speak.) It just drives me crazy that he is still sleeping with her and getting away with whatever else he is doing. He thinks he is the ****in man and I want to deflate that ****in ego of his.
How do I handle this as a "Donjuanita?" Ignore him and it and move on, or kick him in the nuts by telling her?
You know SunnyD is female right?????Mental said:I'm glad you are ok, health wise. Just don't do that kind of thing again, or be prepared for when something shrivels up, you pee fire or your lady bits fall off. It's waaaay too risky, kid.
Well, since she's a "booty call" and technically, you're a "booty call" or were before recently, you owe her nothing. Of course, if you were great friends, it would probably be a different story... but...
Maybe tell her and introduce it as "I'm not trying to get back at you, or him, but just FYI..." word to the wise kind of thing. Don't go stalking her or anything just to get a number, but since you're mutual friends...
or, sometimes airing dirty laundry to gossipy friends might do the job for you. If you tell your friends about the guy and what he did, they might go tell her.
Otherwise, depending on how she is, you might not want to open that pandora's box.
Good luck in your decision.
Just be careful what you allow into your mouth, it is as important as your vagina. Maybe more so.SunnyD said:Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
^^^SunnyD dont listen to him... you put what ever in your mouth that you want to...JackPrescott said:Just be careful what you allow into your mouth, it is as important as your vagina. Maybe more so.
I love it when I'm right!Nighthawk said:I don't know, I think mouth and vagina are equally important. Then ass, then eyes, then personality.
Thanks, (for actually answering the question!) That's what I figured also.Nighthawk said:Five pages in and still no 'Guess what, I slept with him again. Turns out it was all a big misunderstanding' post?
Honestly, just move on. Tell her and he wins because he knows you still give a crap.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Maybe.SunnyD said:Thanks, (for actually answering the question!) That's what I figured also.
And nooooooo, I won't be sleeping with him again.
I have heard that before... then johny walker enters the room...LOLSunnyD said:And nooooooo, I won't be sleeping with him again.
No definitely not. I told him I never even want to hear his name, he knows not to contact me again and I don't think he will. It's been 2 weeks and usually by now he has tried. He knows I'm done. And I AM defintely done.JackPrescott said:Maybe.
Than you are more intelligent than I gave you credit for. I apologize.SunnyD said:No definitely not. I told him I never even want to hear his name, he knows not to contact me again and I don't think he will. It's been 2 weeks and usually by now he has tried. He knows I'm done. And I AM defintely done.
Judging from this sentence, and many others you've posted, I think you have problems seeing outside of this ego you've built up for yourself. I'd say to follow Nighthawk's advice, since not only are you letting go of your ego, you're also not going to help build up that jerk guy's ego. I hope you're going to stick with what you said about never sleeping with him again, because if you do, he will never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever in one kajillion bazillion years respect you as a woman.SunnyD said:I WAS the other woman...moron.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.