DonGorgon said:ummm ok then..
it impresses them, trust me... u should try it
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
DonGorgon said:ummm ok then..
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
LOL... My virility is unparalleld..JackPrescott said:2 hump chump.
Nah women look at me and know I am a sexual beast.. I could say i celibate but not a virgin.sav said:it impresses them, trust me... u should try it
Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...JackPrescott said:I personally feel that cunnilingus and intercourse are on the same level, as far as sexuality. In fact, I consider cunnilingus or fellatio even more intimate. The vagina is meant for a penis. The mouth is meant for food, not tongues.
I dont think he understands women of your ilk...LOLSunnyD said:Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...
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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
SunnyD said:Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...
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I'm glad you are ok, health wise. Just don't do that kind of thing again, or be prepared for when something shrivels up, you pee fire or your lady bits fall off. It's waaaay too risky, kid.SunnyD said:Hooked up with my ex again a couple weeks ago because we were getting along great and maybe going to get back together. He told me he had ended things with the girl he was sleeping with after he and I broke up. So we hung out, things happened...we've all been there. (background: he and I together over a year, not really comitted because he was a comittmentphobe..which is why it all really ended and we've been split for the last 6 months)
Anyway, so we finally hooked up again and I had a feeling (trust your intuition always!) and got it out of him (by saying I'd ask her myself if he didnt tell me) that he was infact still sleeping with her, and I'm pretty sure he did us both in the same day! ****in scum! (you'll all say good for him..but whatever, it's nasty.)
Anyway, the question is this... I met her once and actually liked her (before I knew she was sleeping with my ex...they're not dating though, have just been sleeping together.) And I KNOW she doesnt know about me being back in the picture for that brief period of time...but I sure bet she'd love to know. I want to tell her, not to hurt her or spite him or get him back..but because she is the one who told me about he and her the first time when he lied to me about it. (we were all out in a mutual group, she thought something was still going on with me and ex so she asked, then told me she was with him.)
So anyway, I know I dont owe this girl anything...and I know he wasnt dating either of us but he was lying to us both about not being with anyone else, and not using condoms!!!! (my fault and her fault, I KNOW!!! Yes I have gone to get checked and Im fine and wont do that again.)
He used all the typical lines like "if I didnt care about you I wouldnt talk to you everyday" and "I have fun with you and I have fun with her, Im torn." Also begged and pleaded to stay friends because he didnt want it to end up this way and didnt mean to hurt me. Pfft. whatever.
My friends have said "no, dont tell her it will hurt her and its just to spite him, she wont believe you anyway and you will be the "psycho." I do have texts and msn convos for proof if she wanted...
But what do you guys think..tell or let it go? (I have cut all ties with him and we no longer speak.) It just drives me crazy that he is still sleeping with her and getting away with whatever else he is doing. He thinks he is the ****in man and I want to deflate that ****in ego of his.
How do I handle this as a "Donjuanita?" Ignore him and it and move on, or kick him in the nuts by telling her?
You know SunnyD is female right?????Mental said:I'm glad you are ok, health wise. Just don't do that kind of thing again, or be prepared for when something shrivels up, you pee fire or your lady bits fall off. It's waaaay too risky, kid.
Well, since she's a "booty call" and technically, you're a "booty call" or were before recently, you owe her nothing. Of course, if you were great friends, it would probably be a different story... but...
Maybe tell her and introduce it as "I'm not trying to get back at you, or him, but just FYI..." word to the wise kind of thing. Don't go stalking her or anything just to get a number, but since you're mutual friends...
or, sometimes airing dirty laundry to gossipy friends might do the job for you. If you tell your friends about the guy and what he did, they might go tell her.
Otherwise, depending on how she is, you might not want to open that pandora's box.
Good luck in your decision.
Just be careful what you allow into your mouth, it is as important as your vagina. Maybe more so.SunnyD said:Oh, I'm sorry...I wasn't aware that making out was considered cunnilingus...
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
^^^SunnyD dont listen to him... you put what ever in your mouth that you want to...JackPrescott said:Just be careful what you allow into your mouth, it is as important as your vagina. Maybe more so.
I love it when I'm right!Nighthawk said:I don't know, I think mouth and vagina are equally important. Then ass, then eyes, then personality.
Thanks, (for actually answering the question!) That's what I figured also.Nighthawk said:Five pages in and still no 'Guess what, I slept with him again. Turns out it was all a big misunderstanding' post?
Honestly, just move on. Tell her and he wins because he knows you still give a crap.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maybe.SunnyD said:Thanks, (for actually answering the question!) That's what I figured also.
And nooooooo, I won't be sleeping with him again.
I have heard that before... then johny walker enters the room...LOLSunnyD said:And nooooooo, I won't be sleeping with him again.
No definitely not. I told him I never even want to hear his name, he knows not to contact me again and I don't think he will. It's been 2 weeks and usually by now he has tried. He knows I'm done. And I AM defintely done.JackPrescott said:Maybe.
Than you are more intelligent than I gave you credit for. I apologize.SunnyD said:No definitely not. I told him I never even want to hear his name, he knows not to contact me again and I don't think he will. It's been 2 weeks and usually by now he has tried. He knows I'm done. And I AM defintely done.
Judging from this sentence, and many others you've posted, I think you have problems seeing outside of this ego you've built up for yourself. I'd say to follow Nighthawk's advice, since not only are you letting go of your ego, you're also not going to help build up that jerk guy's ego. I hope you're going to stick with what you said about never sleeping with him again, because if you do, he will never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever in one kajillion bazillion years respect you as a woman.SunnyD said:I WAS the other woman...moron.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.