"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I met this older woman today now what?

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Hey guys :) Today i was at the store buying some soap and she ask me if i liked using that soap, and i told yes i do. Anyways she was talking to me about soap bars and which ones think smell goon on a guy body :D to make a long story short she gave her number and i want to call her today. What do you think?

She is a black woman about 5'4 120lbs :D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you call her, you take her out on a date, you try to have sex with her.

No, what I would do thoguh, is bring her back to my house and make her play madden 2005, because I need some help on stopping the vikings and am tired of playing the computer all of the time. :eek: (seriously,... how DO You stop the vikings on that game?)
 
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If you are going to call her to set up a meeting for later in the week sometime, call her later tonight. If you are calling her to blather on the phone for hours like one of her girl friends call her tomorrow.
 
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Originally posted by hispanicdude79
But this chick is a hottie :D She i tell her?
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Did she tell you you are a hottie? If not why would you be obligated to tell her that. You need to learn some sincere compliments if you are going to use them. If you do compliment her tell her she has great taste in picking out soap, but please man-up and dont use the "you are a hottie" compliment.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by hispanicdude79
ok iam not that good with saying good stuff to them.
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Apparently she's willing to overlook that, if she acted so interested in discussing soap of all things. It sounds like you've got this in the bag, the only thing you need to do now is not make any stupid mistakes like saying "Your eyes look just like my last girlfriend's... which I keep in a jar of formaldehyde in my freezer..." Read the DJB's sections on Conversation, Kino, and Attitude and you should be good to go.

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb
 
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The secret to good convo with anyone is paying attention. If you use all your powers to simply concentrate on what she is saying, you will be able to hold a nice convo. Most ppl be so far in their heads thinking what to say next they dont pay attention. The harder you focus the less you hear the voice in your head, just like when you watch a good movie. Just pay attention, when you do this convo will become really ez.
 
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Originally posted by hispanicdude79
So you think i should let her do all the talking?
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Once again, read the sections of the DJB that I've linked you to before asking any further questions... they are already answered for you in there... We aren't going to plan every single aspect of your date for you, but if you read and digest the information contained in the sections mentioned earlier, you'll be able to handle the date pretty well on your own.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by hispanicdude79
So you think i should let her do all the talking?
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When people tell you their secrets, hopes, and dreams, they are giving you a little piece of their soul. The more they tell you the more of their soul you own. If most guys get this they can own a woman after one convo. Talk less and listen more!
 
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Originally posted by hispanicdude79
Hey guys :) Today i was at the store buying some soap and she ask me if i liked using that soap, and i told yes i do. Anyways she was talking to me about soap bars and which ones think smell goon on a guy body :D to make a long story short she gave her number and i want to call her today. What do you think?

She is a black woman about 5'4 120lbs :D
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did she volunteer her number to you, or you had asked for it ?
 
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