"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No sex yet, no exclusivity. You own her no explanation. Proceed (shamelessly) in regular communication like absolutely nothing happened. If she keeps on, you walk away (in silence).

Remember, many problems with women deal with them and their insecurities. Never shapeshift on their emotional whims. She will either play into your frame or lose you. Simple.

I would also encourage you to train yourself to walk away from women out of default. This is the single most powerful leverage you have in any rapport: your time and your attention.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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guru1000 said:
No sex yet, no exclusivity. You own her no explanation. Proceed (shamelessly) in regular communication like absolutely nothing happened. If she keeps on, you walk away.

Remember, many problems with women deal with them and their insecurities. Never shapeshift on their emotional whims. She will either play into your frame or lose you. Simple.

I would also encourage you to train yourself to walk away from women out of default. This is the single most powerful leverage you have in any rapport: your time and your attention.
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Thing is, we have had sex once. But from that point on, it has been almost impossible to have a normal meeting and chat with her, let alone have sex. Like, the moment some attraction starts to rebuild...she ****s it up with some stupid ****. I think I need to work on my ability of sending people away. Like, there is something in me that stops me from doing that, I feel guilty or like I am hurting them or something. Unless they do some horrible thing, I feel kind of guilty of leaving them.
 
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lizardking82 said:
. I think I need to work on my ability of sending people away. Like, there is something in me that stops me from doing that, I feel guilty or like I am hurting them or something. Unless they do some horrible thing, I feel kind of guilty of leaving them.
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You will have more women pursuing you on your terms when they see you're no chump. Only chumps grasp at straws.

The win is not keeping the woman. The win is keeping frame. Once, she tests and feels your boundaries (of walking away) are weak, the frame is dead.
 
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