"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I may sound naive but, today, I had a girl I know deliberately cross my path.

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I've known this girl who is 9 years younger than me, 33, for going on 3 years. She's very friendly, if not devout, a saint of God. I'm almost certain she's a virgin. She is quiet, but confident. She looks as though she would be a Good stay-at-home mom.

The story or problem is today I was going about my business at work, and she comes out of her business (almost as if, Planned) to bump into me, but I ignored her and let her walk in front of me, as she goes into her car. Her body language was of "I hope he says something to me." I could see her hesitate awkwardly before she got to her car.

She knows I make money. She hates me for not Chasing her, for the past 2 and a half years, the times we've spent with mutual friends, but rarely talked one on one. We talked face to face a month ago, and she was happy/excited to see me, even though I hadn't seen her in a few months.

I like/love her sister, who reminds me of my ex-oneitis, almost identical *think Reese Witherspoon personality. Her other older sister, eh, she's just different than both of them, and married last year. Her mom and dad are down-to-Earth, like farmers.

She's attractive to me, but just a little of the quiet/hard-to-get side. I hope that I see her tomorrow, but still do not know if she longs to be with me, or if she thinks about me, like tonight.

I think I'll ask her, next time I get the opportunity, "What are you, studying to be a nun?" She looks the chick from On the Waterfront, but with brown hair.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this **** for real?

Dude who cares what she is thinking about at night. If you want her show you are interested, stop playing these stupid games man you sound like a damn woman.

She is a shy girl, I know their type and love their type but they will not make the first move. You gotta go for it. OTherwise, keep mentally masturbating about her wanting you bro.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
I hope that I see her tomorrow, but still do not know if she longs to be with me, or if she thinks about me, like tonight.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Come to think of it, she likes Pride & Prejudice. Didn't see her today. Maybe I'll see her in church Sunday even though she hasn't attended my church for a couple of months. She probably saw me today but I definitely did not see her. Then this Other woman who works at a wedding store said she'd set me up with a blond she knows. That's my life at the moment, slow-going.
 
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