"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I may have a shot...need answers ASAP!

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I spoke to this hot chick after New year's break. We were hugging for a good lil' bit:) Next, one of my female classmates suggested that me and the hot chick go on a date. The hot chick playfully threw her umbrella down and started laughing with the chick , among other viewers that suggested we (Me and the hb) go out. In a manly, slow voice, I said "I agree."

One problem: There were about 7 other students (thankfully not all males) who were there when this was going on. Of course, I was frozen solid. I could not make another move, not with the extra viewers around. HELL NO! Worst case scenario; If I got turned down, I would have been ridiculed for a good while for even attempting!

Would it be better to wait until she's by herself or ask her even if there's a bunch of people around? Explain yourselves! God bless.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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nismo oh! the same nismo who is trying to break a have-a-boy-friend-shield ??
A good DJ said it yesterday. You must know that you don't mind the outcome. That's the secret... Go for it!
 

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Just talk to her when you guys are alone...
Flirt and TELL her to give you her number. :)
Do not ask!
 

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nismo-4 said:
Would it be better to wait until she's by herself or ask her even if there's a bunch of people around? Explain yourselves! God bless.
You wait until the next time you see her and tell her "What time are you going to meet me at X?"

You have to assume that she already wants to spend time with you.
 

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Your thinking is flawed.

Instead of "I may have a shot" you should be thinking "She may have a shot - if she doesn't mess it up by being a b*itch."

You have to treat all of this like its no big deal.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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