Johnny Danger
Don Juan
I promised myself I'd get advice earlier next time, while things were still going well.
Met an amazing girl over the summer at an art conference in Chicago. As a man whose been on countless dates, this was lightning-- certainly the deepest connection I've shared with a person in this lifetime. It was over as quick as lightning too. After the most amazing sex of my life, we were on airplanes back home. Her back to Montreal, Canada, and me back to Nashville.
Though we both tacitly agreed that a long distance relationship was out of the question, we ended up emailing non-stop and on talking on the phone for the next two months, continuing to discover remarkable commonalities with one another.
Things seemed to cool a bit in September and I realized that I was spending too much of my time living in a fantasy relationship. I felt that the distance would eventually take its toll, so I waxed romantic (AFC I suppose), asked if she'd be up for going on a date if I went Canada for a few months, and a few days later got my heart handed to me via a LJBF email: "I had a great time with you in Chicago and I think we've found kindred spirits in one another, but romantically, I think we're too much alike and couldn't support each other in that way."
So I depressed for two weeks, didn't do much of anything except the gym and write in my journal. Bounced back now pretty well, still love sick, but otherwise life is good. I met two girls last weekend at an art show who really liked my work, we went out afterwards for drinks and they were treating me like I was some kind of celebrity. I don't know about any deep connections but both of them have high interest, very touchy and sexual, and were anxious to give me their numbers. And they're both cute, and I'd like to possibly get something going here. (they're basically acting like the Montreal girl was acting in the early stages). I almost don't trust myself to handle this new opportunity right and would appreciate any opinions and feedback. Though I've dated a lot and had a few semi-long term relationships, I've got a bit of a trauma history and what I experienced briefly in Chicago this Summer was unreal, the closest I've come to being intimate with a person I had real feelings for. I want more of that.
thanks!
Met an amazing girl over the summer at an art conference in Chicago. As a man whose been on countless dates, this was lightning-- certainly the deepest connection I've shared with a person in this lifetime. It was over as quick as lightning too. After the most amazing sex of my life, we were on airplanes back home. Her back to Montreal, Canada, and me back to Nashville.
Though we both tacitly agreed that a long distance relationship was out of the question, we ended up emailing non-stop and on talking on the phone for the next two months, continuing to discover remarkable commonalities with one another.
Things seemed to cool a bit in September and I realized that I was spending too much of my time living in a fantasy relationship. I felt that the distance would eventually take its toll, so I waxed romantic (AFC I suppose), asked if she'd be up for going on a date if I went Canada for a few months, and a few days later got my heart handed to me via a LJBF email: "I had a great time with you in Chicago and I think we've found kindred spirits in one another, but romantically, I think we're too much alike and couldn't support each other in that way."
So I depressed for two weeks, didn't do much of anything except the gym and write in my journal. Bounced back now pretty well, still love sick, but otherwise life is good. I met two girls last weekend at an art show who really liked my work, we went out afterwards for drinks and they were treating me like I was some kind of celebrity. I don't know about any deep connections but both of them have high interest, very touchy and sexual, and were anxious to give me their numbers. And they're both cute, and I'd like to possibly get something going here. (they're basically acting like the Montreal girl was acting in the early stages). I almost don't trust myself to handle this new opportunity right and would appreciate any opinions and feedback. Though I've dated a lot and had a few semi-long term relationships, I've got a bit of a trauma history and what I experienced briefly in Chicago this Summer was unreal, the closest I've come to being intimate with a person I had real feelings for. I want more of that.
thanks!