I agree with your friend. Don't discuss anything important with women.Just want to share a similar experience with 5 middle class, metropolitan women (my friends wives and GF). I was single and they started discussing who I was dating etc (danger! Danger!)
One said “ you just need to get someone like you, similar age and career that you’re well suited to”
I said “probably not. I like feminine women who put family before career, my career is full of ball breakers working 50 hours weeks. Ive just never been that attracted to professional, career focused women. I don’t want to be arguing over who gets to do the school run etc”
this made them extremely angry, they are all career minded and see anything less as selling out the sisterhood.
they made this clear, and I said “look. Your husband is a MD of a firm and drives a top end BMW. Your husband fights in MMA. Yours redevelops houses. These are all overtly male and masculine professionals and interests. Just see the flip side, you don’t want a guy who’s a nanny, do you? You’re happy for stereotypical types when your choosing your partners. Just accept I’m the same - I like caring, feminine, family first women”
the anger that spewed forth - literally screwing up their faces at times.
it culminated in “so what you’re saying is, I can’t have a career? Women shouldn’t have a career?”
I said “no! Of course not. Just that I personally don’t want that, I have no desire to restrict anyone’s choices”
from that moment on that particular group of women essentially disowned me, and I no longer socialise with them.
these people are just awful people, what feminism has done to them is criminal.
completely hypocritical and total bigotry.
my friend said something after like “look, just don’t say stuff like that...just let it go”
He was acknowledging that they are essentially stupid, and illogical but also essentially bullies so you must accept their ignorance to lead an easy life.