"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

I love you, I’m leaving you?

countermart

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 27, 2009
Messages
175
Reaction score
16
Location
The edge of destiny
Thank you!

Guys, Just here to say thanks.

She wrote me a long letter saying she does not want to break up but thinks because I do not want a baby there is no choice. I am going to write back in a week or so and indicate that she does not have sufficient empathy for my situation and she should put the relationship first and not a baby, that after all the relationship is the basic foundation first.

In the end she can play by my rules or it looks like the end, and I live to love another day!

Thanks again,
Countermart
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Interceptor

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 25, 2007
Messages
2,609
Reaction score
135
Location
Florida
Countermart, she may not want to put the relationship first for you, if youre not satisfying her needs.
 

countermart

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 27, 2009
Messages
175
Reaction score
16
Location
The edge of destiny
Yes, but

Thanks Interceptor, But I have come to the conclusion that the couple has to come first and the baby second. I know too many people with bad relationships that also have a baby and it's a mess.

For the most part we had a really great relationship, but I think the pressuring me with a baby and not coming up with enough of the, at least in part, taking responsibility for that baby, is not the right order of things and lacks empathy.

All a bit sad really, but I am doing ok and moving forward.

Countermart
 
Top