"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I love people-watching. You get the coolest details about people. Just stand in a corner of a room for 5 minutes, and watch people do their thing.

Have you notice when a hot woman talks to a guy, 90% of the time the guy will be trying, on a very subtle level, to impress her, even if he has a girlfriend?

Some of the things they do are totally stupid. One guy suddenly puffed up his chest and did a very subtle "he-man" pose. Another guy started touching his arm muscles. One laughed at all her crappy jokes.

Its even funnier in a group. They become super-alphas all of a sudden, out-talking each other, each trying to get the spotlight. Or else they start mucking around with each other.

Hell, most guys who I term as DJs aren't immune to it either. In fact, some of them even go to extreme lengths of trying to be the "alpha" of the group.


This is why when I need a big favor from a guy, I usually bring along a hot chick to back me up. Ups my chance of success by at least 50% ;)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Funny you should say this as I've only started watching and noticing this behaviour during the past month. I never realised how many guys give off vibes of desperation until I saw it for myself.

However, look at the 10% who do not try to impress - they're the ones the women are fawning over.
 

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Weird, around where I'm from, desperate-looking guys make up about 8% of the male population only. Howcome you guys are able to spot so many??

(I'm including guys from high schools, primary schools, university, suburban malls, the city, the city streets......)
 

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^^^ Amen! Not sure bout you, but in Melbourne, it seems the opposite. I think the freaks stay indoors down here ;)
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I love people-watching. You get the coolest details about people. Just stand in a corner of a room for 5 minutes, and watch people do their thing.

Have you notice when a hot woman talks to a guy, 90% of the time the guy will be trying, on a very subtle level, to impress her, even if he has a girlfriend?

Some of the things they do are totally stupid. One guy suddenly puffed up his chest and did a very subtle "he-man" pose. Another guy started touching his arm muscles. One laughed at all her crappy jokes.

Its even funnier in a group. They become super-alphas all of a sudden, out-talking each other, each trying to get the spotlight. Or else they start mucking around with each other.

Hell, most guys who I term as DJs aren't immune to it either. In fact, some of them even go to extreme lengths of trying to be the "alpha" of the group.


This is why when I need a big favor from a guy, I usually bring along a hot chick to back me up. Ups my chance of success by at least 50% ;)
If you read my other posts i mention the same exact thing. At work, all the attractive coworkers are constantly given attention by guys. It is not like they are always getting hit on, but the guys seem to have no problem making the effort to go up and spend time trying to impress her. And then I watch their interactions with the average girls, they pretty much ignore them or have short, trite conversations.

And this answers the question "why are only ugly girls attracted to me, but not the hot ones?" We are complete puzzies around the hot ones, and then we are arrogant and aloof around the ugly ones.

We need to level the playing field, and treat them all the same. Do not let a girl's big tits or nice curvacious azz distract you for whatever reason, because I am telling you, she knows what she's got and knows every guy wants it!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by TheRelic
^^^ Amen! Not sure bout you, but in Melbourne, it seems the opposite. I think the freaks stay indoors down here ;)
i'm from melbourne too..
but read the post after yours..

you more need to watch people u know, wether its in ur class or workplace. thats where u will notice it..
 

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Originally posted by cant think of a user name
Weird, around where I'm from, desperate-looking guys make up about 8% of the male population only. Howcome you guys are able to spot so many??
I'm not saying desperate as in hitting on the girl, but simply that the guys are making subtle attempts to impress the girl.

I think we've all done it at some stage - its the worst when you're 13 and have just noticed girls, and you do silly stuff to impress them. As people get older, I notice they still do it, but just in more subtle ways.

You don't even need to read any of those body language books. Once you start taking a good look at people, you get a sort of "vibe" for their intentions. I guess that's what women call their 'intuitive' ;)
 
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