"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I love people-watching. You get the coolest details about people. Just stand in a corner of a room for 5 minutes, and watch people do their thing.

Have you notice when a hot woman talks to a guy, 90% of the time the guy will be trying, on a very subtle level, to impress her, even if he has a girlfriend?

Some of the things they do are totally stupid. One guy suddenly puffed up his chest and did a very subtle "he-man" pose. Another guy started touching his arm muscles. One laughed at all her crappy jokes.

Its even funnier in a group. They become super-alphas all of a sudden, out-talking each other, each trying to get the spotlight. Or else they start mucking around with each other.

Hell, most guys who I term as DJs aren't immune to it either. In fact, some of them even go to extreme lengths of trying to be the "alpha" of the group.


This is why when I need a big favor from a guy, I usually bring along a hot chick to back me up. Ups my chance of success by at least 50% ;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Funny you should say this as I've only started watching and noticing this behaviour during the past month. I never realised how many guys give off vibes of desperation until I saw it for myself.

However, look at the 10% who do not try to impress - they're the ones the women are fawning over.
 

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Weird, around where I'm from, desperate-looking guys make up about 8% of the male population only. Howcome you guys are able to spot so many??

(I'm including guys from high schools, primary schools, university, suburban malls, the city, the city streets......)
 

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^^^ Amen! Not sure bout you, but in Melbourne, it seems the opposite. I think the freaks stay indoors down here ;)
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I love people-watching. You get the coolest details about people. Just stand in a corner of a room for 5 minutes, and watch people do their thing.

Have you notice when a hot woman talks to a guy, 90% of the time the guy will be trying, on a very subtle level, to impress her, even if he has a girlfriend?

Some of the things they do are totally stupid. One guy suddenly puffed up his chest and did a very subtle "he-man" pose. Another guy started touching his arm muscles. One laughed at all her crappy jokes.

Its even funnier in a group. They become super-alphas all of a sudden, out-talking each other, each trying to get the spotlight. Or else they start mucking around with each other.

Hell, most guys who I term as DJs aren't immune to it either. In fact, some of them even go to extreme lengths of trying to be the "alpha" of the group.


This is why when I need a big favor from a guy, I usually bring along a hot chick to back me up. Ups my chance of success by at least 50% ;)
If you read my other posts i mention the same exact thing. At work, all the attractive coworkers are constantly given attention by guys. It is not like they are always getting hit on, but the guys seem to have no problem making the effort to go up and spend time trying to impress her. And then I watch their interactions with the average girls, they pretty much ignore them or have short, trite conversations.

And this answers the question "why are only ugly girls attracted to me, but not the hot ones?" We are complete puzzies around the hot ones, and then we are arrogant and aloof around the ugly ones.

We need to level the playing field, and treat them all the same. Do not let a girl's big tits or nice curvacious azz distract you for whatever reason, because I am telling you, she knows what she's got and knows every guy wants it!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by TheRelic
^^^ Amen! Not sure bout you, but in Melbourne, it seems the opposite. I think the freaks stay indoors down here ;)
i'm from melbourne too..
but read the post after yours..

you more need to watch people u know, wether its in ur class or workplace. thats where u will notice it..
 

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Originally posted by cant think of a user name
Weird, around where I'm from, desperate-looking guys make up about 8% of the male population only. Howcome you guys are able to spot so many??
I'm not saying desperate as in hitting on the girl, but simply that the guys are making subtle attempts to impress the girl.

I think we've all done it at some stage - its the worst when you're 13 and have just noticed girls, and you do silly stuff to impress them. As people get older, I notice they still do it, but just in more subtle ways.

You don't even need to read any of those body language books. Once you start taking a good look at people, you get a sort of "vibe" for their intentions. I guess that's what women call their 'intuitive' ;)
 
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