"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I look so much younger than I actually am

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So I'm 19, almost 20 but I look like I'm 15/16. Even worse, I've never done ANYTHING with a girl, even kiss. Which is incredibly weird at my age. It doesn't help that people treat me like I'm so much younger than I am. And if I try to be confident, they just laugh at me and think it's so cute.

So what do I do about this? Just wait till I'm older?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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yeah u need to post a pic otherwise we cant really help out
 

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I'm in the same boat but I'm 23 and look about 17-19. Sucks cause I always have young girls hitting on me and I can't do anything with them (16+ is legal but it's more of a personal decision to not hit on girls that young).
 

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MisterMcGee said:
I have one rule on the internet and that is not giving out too much personal information but I can at least give a description:
5'6
A little overweight but you can't even tell unless I was to lift my shirt up
total baby face
I have a good haircut (about the only part of my body I like)

I tried bulking up in the past but it just made me look weird since my face was still the same. I can't change anything physically so what can I do with my behavior and such?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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grow facial hair. I grew sideburns to get rid of that little kid look.
 

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Irs88 said:
grow facial hair. I grew sideburns to get rid of that little kid look.
That does help a little bit but unfortunately I can't grow much. :mad: I hardly get anything on the sides of my face, no mustache and most of my hair ends up on my neck.
 

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We can't help you without a pic. You can take it down within 24 hours or whatever.
 

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yeah seriously use photobucket, then u can delete the pic as soon as u get help with ur look, otherwise ur just *****ing to a brick wall.... and i really would like to help because im 15 but i look 17 easily and i can imagine how much it would suck to be the opposite
 

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If you cant help him with out seeing a picture of him, you wont be able to help him if you do see what he looks like.

Scorrere
I've been in your situation for many years as you. Only thing you can do, hit the gym and grow muscle, and a lot of it. The muscular definition will give you that manly look. Other then that, it will take about 20 years before you will come close looking your age.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Haha there's no way you look as young as me. I graduated from college a year ago, and I'm working full-time, but I still get confused for a high-schooler or freshmen. I'm Asian, 5'5, and 22, and I can't grow much facial hair either.

http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k303/FiveStarAzn510/IMG_0091-1-1.jpg?t=1251599205

http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k303/FiveStarAzn510/IMG_0652.jpg

Some tips I have for you, as I was in a similar position a couple of years ago.

1. Hit the Gym! I work out 3 times a week, it makes a difference. If nothing you'll gain respect and some self confidence.

2. Dress Older! Look at the way you dress, the way you present yourself also makes a tremendous difference. If you dress like someone who's older, people will naturally assume you are older, even if you look young.

3. Act your age! I'm not saying to be too boring or anything, but the way you speak, the way you walk, the way you act, all plays a big role. If you come across as mature, people will naturally assume you are more mature. I was a project manager and had to lead people a lot older than me, but I'm confident in everything I do and speak with conviction, and it helped shed the young immature kid stereotype.

4. Finally with girls! Just get it over with! You're still young, there's no better time than now. First kiss, first bang, they're all not that big of a deal, once you get them over with, it'll be just like anything else. Some girls might be turned off by your baby face, but just act ****y and funny, show them you're not as harmless as you make look. And if that still doesn't work, there's plenty of girls who will still go for you. Once I got over that mental block, it just flowed naturally, so I suggest you get the initial stuff over with and just have fun and enjoy yourself.

Good luck man, hope it clicks for you. :rockon:
 

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good advice forever. I have a similar problem and did most of things you mentioned a while ago and they all helped me out.
 

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umm me and you are the same age and people sometimes think I am only 16. I can not do anything for a while, and people would assume I am 16. I could stare at a bus-advertisement and people would think I am 16 still. I also lack facial hair. Luckily I did get my 1st kiss, but thats about it.
 

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I have all of you beat.

I'm 32 and never had sex, kissed a girl..or a date..yeah laugh, whatever, but O.P you have nothing to worry about. Just live life and be happy then sometime she'll pop into your life. Don't beat yourself up over it..you're way young yet.

In my case I look young for my age..I'm 32, but I have had 21-25 year olds say no way and at the races most of the really young people befriend me, even 14 year olds.. They joke with me just like I were they're age.

Cherish it man..soon the old fart and hey old man remarks wil be hitting you.
 
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