Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I look so much younger than I actually am

Scorrere

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So I'm 19, almost 20 but I look like I'm 15/16. Even worse, I've never done ANYTHING with a girl, even kiss. Which is incredibly weird at my age. It doesn't help that people treat me like I'm so much younger than I am. And if I try to be confident, they just laugh at me and think it's so cute.

So what do I do about this? Just wait till I'm older?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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yeah u need to post a pic otherwise we cant really help out
 

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I'm in the same boat but I'm 23 and look about 17-19. Sucks cause I always have young girls hitting on me and I can't do anything with them (16+ is legal but it's more of a personal decision to not hit on girls that young).
 

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MisterMcGee said:
I have one rule on the internet and that is not giving out too much personal information but I can at least give a description:
5'6
A little overweight but you can't even tell unless I was to lift my shirt up
total baby face
I have a good haircut (about the only part of my body I like)

I tried bulking up in the past but it just made me look weird since my face was still the same. I can't change anything physically so what can I do with my behavior and such?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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grow facial hair. I grew sideburns to get rid of that little kid look.
 

Scorrere

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Irs88 said:
grow facial hair. I grew sideburns to get rid of that little kid look.
That does help a little bit but unfortunately I can't grow much. :mad: I hardly get anything on the sides of my face, no mustache and most of my hair ends up on my neck.
 

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We can't help you without a pic. You can take it down within 24 hours or whatever.
 

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yeah seriously use photobucket, then u can delete the pic as soon as u get help with ur look, otherwise ur just *****ing to a brick wall.... and i really would like to help because im 15 but i look 17 easily and i can imagine how much it would suck to be the opposite
 

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If you cant help him with out seeing a picture of him, you wont be able to help him if you do see what he looks like.

Scorrere
I've been in your situation for many years as you. Only thing you can do, hit the gym and grow muscle, and a lot of it. The muscular definition will give you that manly look. Other then that, it will take about 20 years before you will come close looking your age.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Haha there's no way you look as young as me. I graduated from college a year ago, and I'm working full-time, but I still get confused for a high-schooler or freshmen. I'm Asian, 5'5, and 22, and I can't grow much facial hair either.

http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k303/FiveStarAzn510/IMG_0091-1-1.jpg?t=1251599205

http://i91.photobucket.com/albums/k303/FiveStarAzn510/IMG_0652.jpg

Some tips I have for you, as I was in a similar position a couple of years ago.

1. Hit the Gym! I work out 3 times a week, it makes a difference. If nothing you'll gain respect and some self confidence.

2. Dress Older! Look at the way you dress, the way you present yourself also makes a tremendous difference. If you dress like someone who's older, people will naturally assume you are older, even if you look young.

3. Act your age! I'm not saying to be too boring or anything, but the way you speak, the way you walk, the way you act, all plays a big role. If you come across as mature, people will naturally assume you are more mature. I was a project manager and had to lead people a lot older than me, but I'm confident in everything I do and speak with conviction, and it helped shed the young immature kid stereotype.

4. Finally with girls! Just get it over with! You're still young, there's no better time than now. First kiss, first bang, they're all not that big of a deal, once you get them over with, it'll be just like anything else. Some girls might be turned off by your baby face, but just act ****y and funny, show them you're not as harmless as you make look. And if that still doesn't work, there's plenty of girls who will still go for you. Once I got over that mental block, it just flowed naturally, so I suggest you get the initial stuff over with and just have fun and enjoy yourself.

Good luck man, hope it clicks for you. :rockon:
 

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good advice forever. I have a similar problem and did most of things you mentioned a while ago and they all helped me out.
 

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umm me and you are the same age and people sometimes think I am only 16. I can not do anything for a while, and people would assume I am 16. I could stare at a bus-advertisement and people would think I am 16 still. I also lack facial hair. Luckily I did get my 1st kiss, but thats about it.
 

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I have all of you beat.

I'm 32 and never had sex, kissed a girl..or a date..yeah laugh, whatever, but O.P you have nothing to worry about. Just live life and be happy then sometime she'll pop into your life. Don't beat yourself up over it..you're way young yet.

In my case I look young for my age..I'm 32, but I have had 21-25 year olds say no way and at the races most of the really young people befriend me, even 14 year olds.. They joke with me just like I were they're age.

Cherish it man..soon the old fart and hey old man remarks wil be hitting you.
 
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